UrbanBaby

07.14.08, 12:54 PM Toddler
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Really struggling. I have one sibling who has been, for the last 5 or so years, just a total disappointment in terms of being part of our family. We both have spouses, kids, etc, but sib lives far away and always puts her family first in spite of the fact that one of our parents died recently and the other is now alone. There's always a reason why everything is someone else's fault, why sib has to come first, etc. I am trying to figure out how to accept this, move on, and also not feel like I have to live my life according to what our remaining parent needs. Anyone btdt? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 07.14.08, 12:54 PM Flag

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sibling obviously is using emotional distance and conflict to distance herself from the pain s/he feels from parent's death and to protect self from expected pain that will result from other parent's death. sib's choice bothers you because it's the one you aren't taking. do you wish you had? are you envious? i would focus on your own healing, recognize there's no perfect answer and that you will sometimes have to deny your parent what s/he wants to get what you want. any particular reason the post is in neutral pronouns? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:04 PM Flag

a mary and martha problem [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:26 PM Flag

it sounds like you envy/resent her distance. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.14.08, 01:28 PM Flag