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07.14.08, 07:16 AM General Topics
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First, this is not a VBA. I need advice. My 5 yo DD is turning out to be very popular with the girls in her class. She's nice to everyone and loves her friends. But some of her friends have become jealous of her other friendships. I have heard this from the parents of the girls. Example: If "Emily" (my dd) plays with Sophia, then I hear from Olivia's mom "Olivia thinks Emily isn't her best friend anymore." I've asked my dd if she is still friends with these girls and she says yes, they are all her best friends. How do I deal with this? Do nothing and let it play out? I've actually felt the need to tell my dd to reassure the other dds that she is still their good friend. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.14.08, 07:16 AM Flag
 

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you are waaaaaay too involved in this. get a life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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np: I dont think she is way to involved in this. I think the other moms are. JUst tell the other moms/daughter that they are all friends and that dd likes to play with all the girls. end of story [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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ita with this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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thanks. that is basically what I do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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np: btw, my dd is only 3 and also turning out to be a very popular kid - with her friends and their parents. it is weird kind of stress to face as a parent, imho. so i understand what you're saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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OP it is a weird kind of stress. My approach is to teach my dd to be nice to everyone, never mean. But if a friendship falls away, I can't force it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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np or: ditto - plus being popular in this way was not my life experience, so it's interesting to observe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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Do not get involved. If another mother says something to you, just smile and say you're sorry her dd's feelings got hurt--or say nothing. Your child's friendships are HER business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:19 AM Flag
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from what I understand this is normal as kids are testing relationships right now. YOu don't have to "do" anything. Best friends will change daily. If the problems are the moms - just laugh it off as one of those stages and make sure they have another playdate etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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Take a big step back. Just smile and be friendly to everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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pathetic. these are the moms who are going to wear abercrombie stuff when their dds are teenagers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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ha. if only you knew these moms. so not the abercrombie type. i think when it comes to your kids, all sorts of feelings come out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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But the healthy response is to the handle the feelings yourself - not address them through your children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:23 AM Flag
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i have two sons, so i don't have personal experience, but my older boy (15) has female classmates and the moms are horrendous - "milf" wannabees unable to give up the belly rings and low rise jeans. i feel like i am in a room full of mrs. kardashians and dina lohans [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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lol, I totally agree! Is our generation competing with our daughters? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:28 AM Flag
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i live in the town with the woman in the news who slept with her son's hockey teammates, one of which turned out to be her daughter's boyfriend. so there's your answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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yes, of course. that's why this situation is so weird to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:27 AM Flag
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it sounds like you are doing the best thing yo can, which is to make sure that your DD is nice to everyone and does not become a mean girl. If she continue to be nice to everyone, and people like her, thats great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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