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07.13.08, 05:36 AM General Topics
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I think that DH might have moderate Adult ADD/ADHD. It effects our marriage on a daily basis and I hate it. Anyone else in the same boat? How did you approach it? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.13.08, 05:36 AM Flag
 

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those are made up disorders. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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how so? should it simply be called add/adhd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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DH symptoms: Hyperactivity: inability to relax, Impulsiveness: blurting out rude or insulting remarks, interrupting others, Inattentiveness in adults: “tuning out” unintentionally, inability to focus on mundane tasks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:45 AM Flag
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You mean he's a man? seriously, if you & he think it is a problem have him tested. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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OP: i think he has add/adhd. when i mentioned it to DH he scoffed at it. he doesn't think he has a problem, but it's getting out of control as far as trying to function as a family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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Maybe you can get him to a different couples therapist & bring it up there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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i thought of that. anyone know how to get a therapist recommended in the healthcare group? when i call the group office, they never recommend a specific therapist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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start with his PCP to make recommendations based on the thereapists in your ins co's netwrok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:46 AM Flag
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OP: thanks. i'm going to try that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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yes, that sounds about right! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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have yo tried couples therapy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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twice. the last therapist i hated b/c she just gave us a book to read every week and we had "oprah's book club" during ever visit. we didn't discuss the direct problems that are going on. also, i don't think she had the experience working with interfaith/inter cultural couples. culture has a lot to do with communication too, i think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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are you a biracial couple [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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yes. filipino and white. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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my dh is the same. he responds to alot of postitive reinforcement. it requires alot of patience on my part but it's worth it. sometimes he is just another dc in the house but i knew that when i married him and he loves me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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OP: i didn't know he has ADD/ADHD until our DS was born. And now it's even worse. He has major anxiety issues when it comes to even the simplest things in life. Part of it is his upbringing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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is your dh on Rx's or therapy? how does he manage it outside of the house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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how old is your ds [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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DS or DH? DS is almost 3. DH is the one with possible ADD/ADHD. He's almost 33. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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Thats not ADD - will he see a prof. for a correct dx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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DH already sees a prof. for his anxiety issues, but i think she missed a lot of other things. DH always cuts off people during converstations, requires reminder to focus on tasks, always preoccupied with thoughts in his head, easily anxious over the smallest things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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does he have a job [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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yes. engineer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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he's able to keep his job, do well? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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that means nothing. how many people who are engineers have apsergers and go into that field b/c it is compatible with the way their mind works? do you know anything about what you're posting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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aspegers is not ADD/ADHD. you can't tell me that engineering is an ADD kind of job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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ha ha. would you believe mathematician/math professor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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has he seen a dr [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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actual Dr. that prescribes his SSRI only sees him for 5 minutes to renew his prescription. DH sees therapist on an inconsistent basis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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well, since you've surrounded yourself with in your opinion incompetent professionals, why on earth should strangers on a message board be able to help you. how do you know your DH isn't just rude and annoying? you didn't know he was rude and annoying before you married him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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i can help. see below. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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OP: thanks for your humble opinion. note to self: no not help others on this board with relating to their experiences. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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what's the part you really hate? DH and DS are ADD/ADHD. Neurofeedback has been a wonderful ($$$ yet drug-free) treatment for 5yo DS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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40% of ADHD sufferers have anxiety disorder as well. 25% have tics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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thank you. i didn't know that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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I'm trying to reply since I have a DH and DS with ADD/ADHD but I don't see my replies on the board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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okay, there they are. ignore the people who are scoffing at your distress. ADD/ADHD is real. http://www.aapb.org/i4a/pages/index.cfm?pageid=1 check out this link and good luck to you!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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OP: thank you for your input. it seems more helpful than scoffing. i came here for resources or people with similar experiences not a Dx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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what are the cultural differences, specifically, that you keep alluding to? the symptoms that you list as reason to believe he has this faux-disorder could not possibly have only surfaced after the baby was born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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