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07.12.08, 18:47 PM General Topics
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We went to a birthday party for a 1 year old family friend--a big party...anyway, a 10 year old boy played with my ds (age 4.5). This bay is also a friend of the family, we have known his parents and grandparents. Anyway, my som was overwhelemed a bit by the number of people and the 10 year old hung out with him and played. DS told us tonight that the boy asked for a hug and a kiss on the lips, so he gave it to him...Should I be concerned? Should I do something? If s, what? My ds's aunt was also at the party and said he saw the 10 year old do this with another young boy a few months back...DS was not uncomfortable about it, and not having seen what happened I am not sure how to interpret the older boys intentions. TIA for any comments [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.12.08, 06:47 PM Flag

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he's 10. More than likely he is just an affectionate little boy. Would you be worried if a 10 yo girl did this? I hate that we live in a world where this has to even be a question [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:49 PM Flag

me too...yet my aunt made a point to say something to me about it, and i questioned myself for shrugging it off... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:50 PM Flag

I would probably make a point to keep an eye on him if he is ever with your kid again alone, but most likely it's fine. If your son is not upset, there is nothing to worry about as far as this inceident goes. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:51 PM Flag

ITA, not an issue IMO [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:51 AM Flag

I disagree. 10 years old is old enough to put a sexual conontation to kissing on the lips. it is totally inappropriate. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:06 AM Flag

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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:51 PM Flag

why not? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.12.08, 06:52 PM Flag

with my first db I made a big thing our of "grown ups kiss each other on the lips, kids kiss each other on the cheeks" but now with 4 dbs I realize it is so NOT a big deal. They see people kissing each other on the lips every day on TV & movies & unless you want to make a big stink about how it is "not appropriate" they will just kiss that way. My 9 yo ds kisses his yr old sisters on the lips & he is not a perv! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.12.08, 07:26 PM Flag

ita, i kiss my 4 yo on the lips and my 1 yo of course gets kissed on the lips [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:57 AM Flag

it is oen thing for sibling to kiss a baby that way. this is a 10 yr old and 4 yr old who do not know each other. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:15 AM Flag

that is absolutely disgusting. 10 yo is a big boy already. Something needs to be said to someone! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.12.08, 08:01 PM Flag

While I don't think you should be concerned, I completely disagree with other posters who don't think it is unusual for a 10 yo boy to request a kiss on the lips from a younger child. It is. That boy either knows what he is doing, or he has social problems. Either way, it is inappropriate and you should make sure that your ds knows that. signed mom of 10 year old. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.12.08, 08:20 PM Flag

ita! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 01:43 AM Flag

ITA. if girls at that age know what it means, so do the boys. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 06:05 AM Flag

ITTTA. I'm shocked by the people who think this behavior is normal. I, personally, would never let my kid be around that 10yo unsupervised again. Juvenile pedophilia is a real thing, btw. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 11:32 AM Flag

^^^and, btw, i worry about the kids of these clueless parents who refuse to teach them about inappropriate sexual behavior [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 11:35 AM Flag

gay, gay, gay [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.12.08, 08:41 PM Flag

A 10 year old is about to enter JUNIOR HIGH. Hello... I can't believe you people don't think there is something wrong. I would meet with his parents and mention what the aunt observed. He is a big boy. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.12.08, 09:52 PM Flag

ita [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 01:43 AM Flag

but a kiss on the lips? i'd be concerned if he was asking him something more sexual. a kiss on the lips from a child isn't sexual IMO [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 08:58 AM Flag

Are you OP? If you are, you should be aware that this 10 year old is experimenting, trying to see if he can push the boundaries. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:04 AM Flag

agree. it is completely inappropriate. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 10:14 AM Flag

ITA--grooming the smaller boy [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.13.08, 11:34 AM Flag

a kiss on the lips from a 5 year old is not sexual. 10 years old? I think it is a different story. [ Reply | More