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07.11.08, 10:34 AM New York City
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Do you agree or disagree? We put too much structure into our children's lives. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.11.08, 10:34 AM Flag
 

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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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I don't but I see a lot of moms running themselves and their kids ragged with this stupidity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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I don't. I think it depends on the parents - I know people who put too little & others who over-schedule their kids, which is what I think you mean by "too much structure" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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compared to, let's say, 30 years ago, do you think we are doing way more structuring? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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100% [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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too much, especially in nyc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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what do you mean by structure..do you mean rules for them to follow or filling their day with a ridiculous amt of classes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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I assumed she meant scheduling every moment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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yes. like instead of letting have a summer on their own you sign them up for camp or other structured activities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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there's a difference between signing them up for camp because you feel like they "need" it, versus signing them up for camp because both parents work and you have no nanny and you need childcare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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totally. and I think we all know that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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I don't think kids NEED camp but many kids I know (including my own) want camp. They love school so much they want to continue that feel throughout the summer. Nothing wrong with summer camp. Not all ppl have houses on the beach where the kids could spend the entire summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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I agree. This is a side effect of broader issues like the need for two parents to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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Ridiculous. Your kids don't know the difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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whether you intended it or not, there's an implicit negative value judement in your statement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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So two working parents are somehow harming their kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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yes, and it is not good for society and I hope the tide turns soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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I live in the city and my kids asked for camp. they love the classes they get to choose and enjoy being with many kids during the summer. Nothing wrong with camp. Not like you are forcing your dc to go to camp because you don't want them around [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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or: well then I think there is too much pressure put on kids. I have 2 kids (8yr and 4yr) and never push them or over schedule them. I want them to enjoy their childhood and not try to live through them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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I don't but many people do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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Agree, to a certain extent. I think it is importnat for children to in activites I believe it builds character, and confidence. Putting them in activities for societial reasons or to get them into the best pre school because if they aren't they will never get in to good college etc is LAME!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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Yes. I think the fact that there are classes for babies starting at birth is ridiculous. And before anyone says it's socialization for the moms, I'd like to point out that a large number of the "adults" there are nannies. I think a few activities every week DO provide structure to the week, but kids really need to have free playtime more than most do in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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You probably do, if you are feeling that. I believe kids will naturally create (or make it clear what they need, if they need help creating) their own structure, with more or less depending on the kid. It's one of the reasons I will be homeschooling and not imposing an arbitrary structure on dds life. As far as classes for babies go, if they aren't forced to do a particular thing and they enjoy it and it isn't during their natural nap time, I see no problem with it. Moms *do* need to get out, and may enjoy the classes themselves, nannies or no-- nothing wrong with that either. A lot of the structure parents impose is to make it easier for the adults' lifestyle. I think "we" should be honest about that and evaluate it, and keep the focus on fun and quality time spent w/ our kids. If it feels off kilter to you, it probably is, and there may be a better way for your family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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>>>fun, and speding quality time w/ our kids (time where *we* don't have another agenda). I think if it feels off-kilter to you, it probably is, and there may be a better way for your family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:32 AM Flag
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Too many schedule activities and overparenting/microparenting. There was a kid in DS's kinder w/ a spread sheet to keep track of extracurriculars. So bizarre. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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