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07.10.08, 18:13 PM General Topics
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We have 3 dcs with an unusual age gap, 7, 21 and 25. We need to re do our will and among the decisions will be who to appoint as guardian for our 7 y/o should dh and I buy the farm. Here's my general question: My 21 y/o ds very much wants to be appointed guardian. Presently my brother would be guardian but we're not comfortable with him (he has many issues) My dd is not responsible enough. Would you think it's wise or fair to appoint your 21 y/o ds to this role? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.10.08, 06:13 PM Flag
 

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Interesting question. It makes me think because the age gap between me & my sibs is that--they were in high school when I was born. I'm not sure if my parents even had a will, but when I think about it, had something happened to them, I probably would have gone to my brother--the middle sibling--because he was married at the time and more stable. Does that help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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Yes, thanks. I should have added that my 21 y/o is conservative and stable. I just don't know if he understands what it would mean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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NP: He's 21: discuss it with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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He's aware of the issue and has been pressing us to do it. He adores his brother and wants to be there for him if necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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So unless you don't trust your son, I don't see what the issue is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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He's so young! It's unlikely we'll both die early but I hesitate just because I don't want to change the course of his life so profoundly. But you're right - the basic issue is trust. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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i would do a dual appointment with the older son and your most trusted advisor or sibling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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We're going to discuss this with our lawyer and I'm sure as you say there are all sorts of shades of gray. Thx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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ITA. and make sure that there is a very responsible party controlling the money. you want to be sure that there is always enough to cover things like health care. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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I might. When I think of my older nieces and nephews, there's actually one who's around 21 who would have the maturity to take on that role. Depends on your son. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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I would. But I would set up a trust for life insurance and any other money that would be left to him and have someone else be the trustee. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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