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07.10.08, 08:23 AM General Topics
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ok, we succeeded in moving 1.5 y/o's bedtime from 10 down to 8p. but when she went to bed at 10, she'd wake up at 9. now, she's waking up at 3 am!!! ready to play!!! this cannot be good. how can we fix it? she's lost 4 hours of sleep a day, and it shows in her behaviour! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.10.08, 08:23 AM Flag
 

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Does she nap? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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2 times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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^^ actually, now with 8p bedtime, she naps 3 or 4 times, 2 smaller naps. one comes at 5-6 or 7am. the next is 11-1. the next main one is around 4, depending on if she has class or not...she sometimes takes a short 4th nap in the stroller somewhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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ahhh. too many naps i'd say. no 4pm nap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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but the main naps are 11-1, and the 4-ish nap. the other 2 are not consistent. if i drop the 4, then she'd go to bed for the night at...5 or 6, and then be up at 1, 2 am... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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then drop the earlier nap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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that doesn't work, either...they are both crucial, otherwise she'd be up for, like 7 hours straight or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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the "nap" in the early morning should be the continuation of her night's sleep. Just don't let her get up (i.e. don't go get her) at 3am [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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ok, you need to STOP the cosleeping NOW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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co-sleeping is not the problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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Yes, it is. If db had her own room and a crib she had to stay in she would go back to sleep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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np: ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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read below...she's a bed hog, often she's sleeping in the bed alone, and i'm on couch, dh is in her room. yes, screwy, but in essence she has her own bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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Do you not understand how BIG of a problem this is? You need to put her in her OWN room in her OWN bed (crib would be better at this point) and allow yourself and your poor dh your room back [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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this is a totally separate issue...we're tackling the early rising issue now (which wasn't an issue before when she went to sleep late--she got plenty of sleep, just different from what other parents enforce, which is what pressured us into changing her routine, now we're screwed.) before we changed her bedtime, co-sleeping was def not an issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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Sorry, but it is always an issue, and is definitely tied to the bedtime/wakeup. You really need to get her her own room [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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sorry, but my 4 sibs and i co-slept, it wasn't a big deal to my parents at all, just normal. we all like co-sleeping, there is nothing wrong with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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in fact, 1/2 the time i'm not even in the bed bc i'm working or sleeping on the couch bc she's a bed hog. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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Why do people do this to themselves? I don't get it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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bc i take care of my kid during the day, i need to do my work after she goes to sleep. (i WAH w very little help) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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That does NOT explain why your child is sleeping in your bed with you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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what's wrong with it? most of the world cosleeps. it's just a few western countries where people put their babies in cribs in separate rooms. i grew up in an immigrant family. co sleeping really is not a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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Actually, in most of the western world (where I assume op lives as well) cosleeping is not done as it is proven to not only disrupt sleep for all involved, but to be more dangerous for the baby especially [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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ok, my db is out of the danger stage. so, i don't have the right to believe it's not a big deal to co-sleep, when my parents did the same with me and each sibling, as do/did all my relatives (no big deal, kid is 3 and goes into their own bed.) we think it's nice, and if you have a problem with that, you should myob. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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ok, but you do realize you're setting yourselves all up for major issues. I'm surprised your dh puts up with it. Most people i know who have co-slept are divorced now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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well, we've been together 17 years while many of our friends have since divorced, i think we can handle co-sleeping given the bigger problems life can throw you. i grew up co-sleeping, as did all of my siblings and cousins (well, in our culture, kids just naturally gravitate to their own beds at around 3. in our parents' culture, it's a non-issue...and even though i'm american, i still have the right to incorporate parts of my parents' culture...especially if it's harmless. it's not like circumcising a vagina, my god.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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ok, you clearly will do wahatever you want. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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some people need regiment, some people can't function with regiment...the latter is seeming to hold true for our little family. try to make her sleep schedule match other kids' and she gets all screwed up and sleep deprived. should have kept her on her late night sched. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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then just go back to it and problem solved (you hope). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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my question wasn't about co-sleeping...it was about fixing a problem that didn't exist before the bedtime change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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omg - that is completely asinine. nobody got a divorce simply because of co-sleeping. The funniest thing about all of this to me is that the people who are so vocal and opinionated against co-sleeping are never those who actually co-sleep. For the life of me I cannot figure out why you care so much how other families choose their sleeping arrangements. (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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I mean having her in bed w/ you. I get that some families passionately believe in co-sleeping and AP. But it seems like a lot of people just back into it w/o intending to and then have all these difficulties as a result. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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Too many naps. Both of my kids at that age did 7-7 sleep, then a 1 p.m. nap. My oldest kept the morning nap longer so his day was 7-7, 9 a.m. nap, 1 p.m. nap. That 4pm naps i probably screwing her up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Maybe she needs time to settle into the new routine. Make the time she wakes up at 3am as boring for her as possible and don't interact with her. How long are her naps during the day? Does she need one longer nap rather than two shorter ones? My ds always sleeps better at night if he has napped well during the day. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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her 11 a is longer, maybe up to 2 hours (bc she gets up so early, i suppose, she's exhausted.) the afternoon nap is about 45 min or an hour. last night we totally ignored her--she just left the room and was playing with her toys, flipping through her books--in the dark. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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too many naps. Cut the naps down to one big nap a day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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1 wk, 10 days? it's pretty consistent, waking up at 3 on the dot. totally wide awake, not grumpy, pulls books or toys off shelf (after climbing out of bed) and brings them to me, is babbling and pointing things out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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I would get a pack and play to put next to your bed with a couple of toys in it. Put her in there when she wakes up and hope she goes back to sleep after a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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