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07.10.08, 06:10 AM General Topics
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I am considering leaving my dh. He says he is madly in love with me, but my life with him in our 9 years of marriage has been totally undependable. From various breaches of intimacy to the last three summers in a row with job upheaval. Again, this summer he is out of work - another consulting/job gig comes to a halt and he had nothing else set up..even though he knew for months it was unstable. We have enough $$ to pay for living expenses for 3 mths and then need to borrow form his family...at which we will have to sell our house, and move overseas to live with his family. Kids uprooted, me losing my home etc - its the last straw. I'm almost 40...and feel like everything with him is unreliable. Question is..do I try to make plans toward a life without him now - or wait for him to get a job and then start planning? When do I tell him that its over? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.10.08, 06:10 AM Flag

Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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UrbanBaby Support

I think only you know when you are DONE. But I think it's a good idea to have a stable plan for you and your kids before you leave. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:12 AM Flag

What is a "breach of intimacy"? btw I'm sorry. We've had some job upheaval too but it seems to be a way of life for many many people these days. gl [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:15 AM Flag

op-many years ago, right after we married he flat out cheated - not sex, but some chick gave him oral sex..3 weeks after we returned from honeymoon. Horrid huh? I found out years later..but several times thereafter there was secret long distance inappropriate calls and emails with various women he knew. Nothing has happened in several years and he is mr super devoted. He had very serious issues that we went to therapy for, but all that history, added to all this new instability over last few years is just too much. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:19 AM Flag

I can understand that. Wow. I wonder if he'd like to do it all over knowing that the damage he did is irreperable.. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.10.08, 06:29 AM Flag