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07.10.08, 04:20 AM New York City
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kind of confused. been serious with bf for 6 months. very serious. last week was my bday and we went to a b&b for the night and it was really nice. I wouldn't have expected a gift on top of that, but he is super generous and i knew he would. at dinner he said he didn't have the gift on him. he ordered it and had to pick it up at the store and i would have it tomorrow. well the next day came and went and nothing. now its a week and nothing, and no mention of it. it upsets me, as bratty as it sounds, because i just wanted something, even if little from him, with a card and everything. it also means, he never really ordered something from a store and he wasn't being honest. i know this sounds so spoiled, but its more of a statement i am worried he is making then anything else. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.10.08, 04:20 AM Flag
 

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don't walk, but run away from him! seriously. if he cared enough, he could have said "this dinner is your gift"! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:22 AM Flag
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meaning its the lie that bothered you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:22 AM Flag
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^^^he did surprise me with b&b trip etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:24 AM Flag
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that is really weird. why would he mention it and then not deliver or talk about it again? it doesn't sound spoiled. i would wonder wtf if someone did that to me. i would ask him about it. just tell him you are wondering why he would say it and then not deliver. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:26 AM Flag
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the weirdest part is, he is very good about that stuff. thinks of everything, so in some way it seems a bit passive agressive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:27 AM Flag
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Could it just be that he forgot about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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the lie would have annoyed me. I can't stand lies. My bday was last month and we went away for the weekend. All I expected since I knew my weekend was a treat was a bday card. He gave me a card with something very nice written inside. I was very happy. IF he didn't get me my card I would have been very bothered [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:27 AM Flag
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If you were me I would ask him...the wondering and suspicion would drive me crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:27 AM Flag
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whats worse is that my best friend called and he was right next to me and she in an excitedly way said "whats the present!?" cause she really wanted to know. he heard it and said it irritated him. i dont know whats going on with him. btw, i am not someone who acts entitled, etc. and i feel funny asking, because i feel like if he wanted to give it, he would [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:29 AM Flag
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np: ugh he was irritated by your best friend asking? Sounds like he didn't get you anything, forgot and her call made him feel like shit...which he should since he's the one that lied [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:42 AM Flag
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what did he say when he was irritated? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:43 AM Flag
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if you have a good relationship with him then ask him. make light of it and of him but you should discuss it because you should be able to talk to a guy you are getting serious with. can you ask in sort of a teasing jabbing but " i don't really care" way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:33 AM Flag
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just ask him. If he stumbles tell him no need for him to have lied and he could have said this trip was your gift. But the lie would annoy me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:41 AM Flag
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Did you ask about a gift - or did his comment come up when he overheard your girlfriend? He should be pissed off if the comment came from you or your girlfriend. He was already being generous and was being asked for more. If he made the comment unprompted then the fact that he made it up is a problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 04:49 AM Flag
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You should say, "honey -- can you tell me which imaginary store my imaginary gift came from because I want to imagine something in a different size." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:22 AM Flag
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^^^ or "because I think I might go there for your birthday present" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:25 AM Flag
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Yes you should ask him about it but do it ASSUMING he has a perfectly good explanation (the store mis-ordered & is ordering again or he is getting something engraved, it is being resized, etc) because think how spoiled/entitled you would sound if you accused him all huffy & pouting about his "lie" and then found out he was doing something really sweet. If in fact, you then find out he really just said it bec he felt like he "should" have a present but hadn't gotten around to it, then you tell him the B&B & dinner was oe than enough & you were just bothered by the fact he said he had something & then didn't deliver. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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