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07.09.08, 07:43 AM General Topics
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Does anyone have dc 6 years apart? What are the pros and cons? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.09.08, 07:43 AM Flag
 

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I have 2 ds's nearly 6 yrs apart. Now 8.5 and (almost) 3 and finally do play together. The transition was very easy -- no jealousy by older ds, he was ready for a sibling and he was starting 1st grade right after ds #2 birth, so had his own life. That gave me lots of time to spend with ds #2 alone, and also had a sitter so I could spend afternoons with ds #1 alone sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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sounds good. Does anyone think that 2nd ds is from another marriage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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Just saw your 2nd question. That's odd, never even occurred to anyone -- does it matter? In my case, both ds' look so much alike I don't think that would come up, and also people have known dh and me for a long time. But even if they did, who cares? Would be nice even if from 2 marriages. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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I have cousins who are 6 years apart, as are DH and his sister. In both cases the older sibling loved having a "baby" to help with, there wasn't a lot of jealousy and difficulty sharing things because they were at very different stages. My dh and his sister were very close as kids but when she went to college they were not as close, and now they're friendly but not close siblings (though that could be because she's crazy as well). My cousins are very good friends at ages 15 and 21. Older boy in this case, younger girl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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Cons are that you are starting all over again after forgetting everything about a newborn. And, for vacations, they don't really do same things and we sometimes separate with dh taking one and me another for a few hours (like older ds likes museums, but younger can't last, etc.) But cons aren't too bad, and ds really likes having a little brother. The funny thing is all his friends like playing with the little brother, too -- they are now old enough to think ds #2 is entertaining, as opposed to ds #2 annoying them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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That's what I was hoping. I waited a long time because I didn't want the stress of 2 toddlers and now they can both get the attention that my 1st one got. My closest sibling is 5 years older and I felt like an only child and loved it as a kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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I have one that is 9 yrs older than youngest but have a middle dc 4 yrs older than youngest (& 5 yrs younger than oldest for those doing the math). The 9 yr diff is easier than the 5 yr since she is like another babysitter for me & they worship her. The 5 yr diff was not really a problem till recently (they are 4 & 9 now) where they squabble like normal siblings and he doesn't want her tagging around when he has playdates but I think that would happen w/any age range. Pros are there is no jealousy or rivalry & you can concentrate on each child individually, even the "con" that you do end up doing things separately is actually good since it gives you time w/each child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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a little different because we adopted a toddler and have a 7 yo - so 5.5 year difference. It has been great - agree with everything other posters have to say. I would add that I'm really surprised at how much interaction they had right away - I thought 18 month old would be too young for that. They really can play together. And 7 yo is huge help, at playground and at home. I wouldn't have chosen this gap but it's working out really well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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np: these responses are so great to hear. ds1 will be 4.6 yo when ds2 arrives this fall and i was wondering how the age difference would play out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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