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07.08.08, 14:30 PM Toddler
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DH is SAHD and I just got laid off. He thinks I am crazy because I say that I can't decide if I want to stay home with the kids because I know it is not an option today (his earning potential is 1/10 of mine since he has been out of the work force so long). Thoughts? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 07.08.08, 02:30 PM Flag

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do you have the savings to do it? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:31 PM Flag

Yes, but I feel that I have worked really hard to build up our nest egg, so don't want to dig into it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:33 PM Flag

not to mention that if neither of you work, you will both have the problem of trying to get back into the workplace eventually which can be rough at the beginning. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:35 PM Flag

one of us will work. I think it has to be me and don't see a choice, but DH says there is. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:41 PM Flag

seems like the person who makes the most $$ ought to work. Sorry but you need to find another job [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:38 PM Flag

That wasn't the question. DH says he is willing to go back to work if I want, but I say I can't say if I want that (one of us will stay home) since I don't think it is a finanacial option today. He says I should think theorectically and we can find a way to make it work. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:40 PM Flag

theoretically will only get you so far. You have to be practical (although your DH sounds lovely) It's nto a good idea to dip into savings that you will need for school retirement etc. Maybe you could come up with some compromise where you both work pt or something, but unless you have unlimited funds, I think you have tofind a job. Sorry [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:43 PM Flag

you are missing the point. DH wants me to consider if I would want to stay at home. My question is am I being reasonable to say that I can't consider it because I don't think it is practical? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:53 PM Flag

np: Not necessarily. If OP wants to take time off, and has the savings, she has earned it. Also, her DH may want to start working on another career anyway unless the plan is for him to be SAHD forever. Besides, it may take a while for OP to get a new job too. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:42 PM Flag

just trying to be practical ;-) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:43 PM Flag

It may well be, but I would not close the door on him working. He may yet surprise you. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:45 PM Flag

OR there (not OP) Just saying, if what they have been doing works, and OP makes 10 times what DH does, she should just find another job. Unless they can live onhis salary of course [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:46 PM Flag

op: does it change your mind if our net worth is $3.5 million and I have enough severance to carry me through 2009? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:51 PM Flag

In that case I'd take at least the summer off before looking again. Very few places are hiring this time of the year anyway. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.08.08, 02:52 PM Flag