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07.08.08, 13:08 PM General Topics
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df from college is having major infertility issues, she just confided in me that she has been trying for over a year. I feel horrible for her. She is, however, I would guess somewhere betwn 50-100lbs overweight. Definitely not my place to bring this topic up with her in relation to fertility, right? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.08.08, 01:08 PM Flag
 

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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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Don't bring it up to her. She could be struggling with PCOS. The weight may not be a factor at all. Just be a supportive loving friend to her--I/F is so hard to go through. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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oh yea sure, kick your friend while she is down and explain that when you went to med school, you found out that being 50-100 pounds overweight was the cause of her infertility. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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not the cause, but a factor, right? And I do actually have a PhD in a medical science, not that its the reason I would bring it up. She was always talking about our other friend who struggled with infertility and was a very very thin marathon runner & how she thought the woman should just stop running for a bit and see if it would help! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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You are quiet full of yourself. Lets see... maybe her dh is shooting blanks. You are not acting like a friend. Whats your deal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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why so angry? Jeez. I am not "quiet" full of myself. What is YOUR deal? And her DH already got tested and is fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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I'm not angry at all, just calling a spade a spade. I don't buy your act. I think you are rude and most definately not a supportive friend. Frenemy? Maybe. But friends don't need to come to anon message boards to get ideas of how to tell their friend they are fat. And before you assume, I'm a size four with two healthy children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:18 PM Flag
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calm down lady. I've been friends with this woman for 17 years and never once mentioned her weight - why should i care? But I know how desperately she wants a db, and its hard to watch someone go through something, etc... as the woman below said, its her life & struggle but I wish I could help her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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np: I probably said stupid stuff related to babies/infertility before I went through it. Just cut her a break and be a good friend. I/F can totally turn your world upside down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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that makes sense [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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Most of middle america is 50 pounds overweight - they have no problem making babies! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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gross generalization. Many of them do have fertility trouble. NYC is not the only place with infertility. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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You really can't say anything. I am watching my friend spend tens of thousands of dollars on treatments, and when her RE told her she needed to lose the weight, she flipped out and got a new doctor. It's her life, her struggle - I can only support her during the hard times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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jeez, what's with the UB'er that went ballistic? You're probably right, it might have something to do with it. Both extreme underweight and overweight issues do effect fertility. It's ironic that she brought up the marathon runner, b/c I know someone that actually did get pregnant after she stopped running 10-15 miles a day. This all being said, I would not bring it up. I find it unlikely that she doesn't already know that weight can be a significant issue for fertility, almost every book says to get to your ideal weight if you're having problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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