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07.08.08, 07:43 AM General Topics
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this may be a really stupid queation, but a friend invited us to her ds bday party. first a pool where non-members pay a lot then just hang/lunch/play back at their place. what is the protocol? when we get there does she pay for all of us? 2 adults/2 dc? or do we pay? i really cant afford to pay 100+ for 1 hour of swimming. not sure what to do. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.08.08, 07:43 AM Flag
 

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if she makes you pay that is ridiculous and rude. She invited, she should pay [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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ok - that is what i thought - so when we arrive there, should we just step back for when its time to pay? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:46 AM Flag
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if you are unsure, I would ask her what the cost is for the pool. If you ask she should say don't worry it's our treat. If she says it' s$100..I wouldn't go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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i know, but we already said yes to the invite but did not know about the pool thing, would not want to look cheap - hate these things :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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she really needs to treat. You need to ask anyway so you aren't caught off guard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:53 AM Flag
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She should treat, but I doubt that she's planning on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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Ask her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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any clue how many other people she's inviting? have you been there before or can you play dumb and ask "do we need to meet at the gate or will they let us in without you present?" just some kind of question that would allow her to volunteer the info - "oh you just pay and they let you in." or "we're paying for everyone up front and your name is on a list." that kind of thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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besides our family there will be another child with parent - so a very little bday party for her dc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:50 AM Flag
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Is the other family members of this pool? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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i would assume she paid some package deal for her party. i am not sure if there is a not tacky way of asking. Maybe ask her if you can pay by credit card at the place and see if she says "don't be ridiculous it is all paid for". Are you sure it is not a drop off party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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no - the kids are little and there is a pool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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np: i think this is the way to do it, by asking if they take cc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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if the party is that small, she probably didn't pay for a package deal. Don't ask about the credit card if you're thinking about backing out if you're paying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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if you ask & it's clear that you're paying & it's too much $ for you, just go alone w/ the one dc who is the friend of her dc. say the other dc wasn't feeling well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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You are over thinking this. Just call her and ask her what the deal is with getting in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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I am pretty sure she will pay for you. She will probably need to meet you at the gate anyway or else you can't get in. I wouldn't worry too much about it. My parents go to a golf club and always just pay for guests. This is probably why they are having a mini party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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