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07.08.08, 05:42 AM General Topics
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my dh's ex-girlfriend/friend has always bothered me (when we first found out we were pregnant she was really sweet to me and then pitched a fit to him saying she wished she was the one who was pregnant with his baby). recently, i saw that she had called his cell phone and i listened to the message and she was giving him a whining guilt trip for not calling her often enough. i really want to tell him to stop talking to her all together because she is a fake *((**. He did call her a few days later to console her i am sure. the situation makes me crazy jealous. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.08.08, 05:42 AM Flag
 

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wow. inappropriate of her to say she wished she was pregnant, and inappropriate of you to snoop on his cell messages. have you told him how much it bothers you that they're still in touch? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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np: Yeah, the fact that OP had to snoop is not a great sign, though. Her DH is hiding his relationship with this other woman to a large extent - it's bad news. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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where do you get that? There is nothing in the post to suggest that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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I agree, how else would she have known what the "friend" said, if the dh hadn't told her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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yuk! who needs shit like that? sounds like your dh has "issues" with her. I would steer clear of it and stop obsessing over her concentrate on you and your relationship w/dh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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Come on now; Enlightened is not akin to tolerating active, emotional ties between your partner and their ex. True, it's absurd to be checking his voicemail BUT more absurd for him to maintain ANY communication w/her, when it was zero hour for severing all ties. It's better to have it all out in the open; admit that you violated his personal space.You're having a child together; right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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Ita. My dh has friends that are past girlfriends, but there is no way I would allow him to stay friends with someone who said that it should have been her baby. She is not his friend, she is waiting for you to break up (which, since you're married is both desperate and delusional). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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He's still sleeping with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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you got it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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You can't possibly know that. C [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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Outside of business colleagues, why would ANY woman have your DH's cell phone number? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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a dh here: there are several dozen women who are not my wife and who I don't work with who have my cell phone number. I'm not sleeping with any of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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Closet gay? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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Because I UB or because there are women who have my cell phone number who I am not sleeping with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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Because of the latter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:09 AM Flag
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Really? Funny. Usually on UB it is the former. I have about a dozen that are friends we babyswap with alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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you're crazy. My husband who is definitely not gay has a number of female friends who have his cell phone number. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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guess you never heard of "forsake" all others - guess you just enjoy the adoration [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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you're insane! Your dh isnt allowed to have any friends? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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dh again: that is not what "forsake" there means. I love and honor my wife in just about everything I do. (Obey I am a little weak on...) But I never even considered that my vows meant I was not allowed to have female friends. Just as I don't expect the same (male friends) from her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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your DH is playing you and it's completely inappropriate for him to have any kind of continuing relationship with her. Why would he tell you about the conversation with her saying she wished she was pregnant (I assume she didn't say that in front of you). He is trying to make you jealous and/or still sleeping with his ex. I don't generally believe in ultimatums but this requires one: stop all contact with her or the marriage is over -- because if he doesn't, the marriage is over anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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He is sleeping with her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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Only a woman sleeping with a man would feel close enough to say they wished it was their baby. he is screwing her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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I hadn't thought about it like that, but I bet you're right... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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Your DH is a very insenstive jerk - I know this because my DH is one also - these men thrive on the attention and adoration - they love the ego boost they get from these women and the thrill it brings to have these women adoring him - some say its wrong for you to check his e-mail and his cell - guess what he opened that door for you to be insecure now - tell the ex off - tell her to get her own life and own man and stay away and out of your lives!!!! He obviously doesn't have what it takes to toss her aside!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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Its very rare that I post here anymore, but I had to log in just to tell you this. I went through the exact same thing with my dh. He had an ex who he told me all the time was 'crazy'. All the same things, voicemailsa, texts, visits in the night. He got a restraining order against her, made out like she was a crazy ex. He was sleeping with her the whole time. I hate to tell you this, but your dh cannot be friends with someone who is in love with him. She will always be able to get to him, and he will sleep with her. He needs to stop contact now, 100%, give you access to his phone, email etc and be 100% with you. He is trying ot have both of you, and Ive learned the hard way that the devoted wife sitting home with the responsibilites cannot outwin the free, single woman who knows his past, and is determined to break you up. If he is not 100% committed to cutting her out of his life, you need to leave now. It still hurts even now how stupid I was. Out of interest, did he leave her for you? Mine did, and thats another reason she has made it her lifes goal to destroy our marriage. Good Luck, but dont let this continue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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