UrbanBaby

07.07.08, 13:47 PM New York City
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My marriage is not what I thought it would be. DH was successful on track for partner lawyer who doted on me when we met. Now he is not v. nice, yells at me a lot, is very restrictive in raising dcs and his career has gone off track. When do you know its time to divorce to time to get help? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 07.07.08, 01:47 PM Flag

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What has changed for him? What accounts for the shift in behavior? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:48 PM Flag

Sometimes I wonder if he was always like this but I didn't see it. He is so so so conservative, he freaks out over anything that is messy or out of order. I just can't take it but everyone thinks we are the perfect happy couple including my parents and I don't know what to do! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:50 PM Flag

The abusive types always hide it well. They can't keep it in for long though. He has always been this way, don;t blame yourself [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:51 PM Flag

Thats what I was thinking [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:54 PM Flag

maybe you were too busy looking ahead to "partner" and didn't notice he's an asshole. in which case, it is your fault. I'm in the same position by the way, but it's not law. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:00 PM Flag

I'd say getting help can be any time you think you need it, and it sounds like you are looking for help now. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:49 PM Flag

you are right, I think I am looking for help. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:54 PM Flag

it's time to get help. now. not time to divorce, at least not yet. try getting help first. and main thing you should fix first is yelling at you. that's no good. probably all related to career unhappiness, etc. but make that stop. let him know you're serious. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:49 PM Flag

Called my sister's therapist and have an appt next week [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:55 PM Flag

My dh is successful and i went through the same thing. We have been seperated until he decides that he wants to be part of a family. How old is he? this may make a difference [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:49 PM Flag

he is 39. I think a lot of his issues may be tied to not being the successful lawyer he thought he would be but the screaming and the restrictive environment is too much [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:56 PM Flag

wow, I hope this isn't me in a few years... we're still at the on track for partner lawyer who dotes on me but we have a few issues stage... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:03 PM Flag

Well wake up and realize how few make partner [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:10 PM Flag

Not every lawyer can become partner, right? I hope your marriage does not rely on him becoming partner. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:36 PM Flag