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07.07.08, 07:42 AM Expecting
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My 5 yr old is in camp and pretty miserable. I'm due next week w/#2 and am trying to figure out whether to keep him in camp, since routine is already established and we can't get a refund, or to pull him out once baby arrives and I'm back from the hospital. It's major drama every morning when we drop him off and my heart is breaking, but then when I pick him up he's just fine. His GM is coming to help after baby is born, so there will be help here. WWYD?? Thanks! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Expecting 07.07.08, 07:42 AM Flag
 

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what do the camp staff say about how he does after you leave? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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how long has he been in camp? If he's fine when you pick him up, then I suspect that he's just going through attachment issues with #2 coming soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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His camp is at the preschool he's been in for the past 2 years, so it's not so new, although it's some different kids and teachers. I know a lot of it is attachment issues, but wondering if the best strategy is just to leave him there for the rest of the summer, as I'd planned, or take him out once baby is born. DH thinks if we take him out for a few days when baby is born we're setting a precedent that he doesn't have to go and things will just deteriorate. On the other hand, his GM is coming to be w/him when baby is born and it seems silly to have her take him screaming to camp every day and then just hang out at home. Help! I'm not thinking logically. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:47 AM Flag
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i don't think it's setting any kind of precedent. a new baby is a pretty special circumstance, as is gm coming to visit. you can tell him every time you have a baby he gets to skip school for a few days... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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if new baby is there AND grandma is there, he's really going to want to stay home; it's going to feel like there's a party going on w/o him. sorry. maybe let him stay with you, five is little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:44 AM Flag
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I agree. I don't think that it's bad to have him in camp now, but when baby is born and grandma is there, you will be setting him up for a lot of resentment if he misses out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:49 AM Flag
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why doesn't he like it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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his friends are all doing different camps, so he's not close w/other kids there. he doesn't like the lack of structure. he misses his old friends and teachers, etc. Mostly, though, he wants to be home w/me. Even having trouble being w/favorite sitters unless i'm in the house. He's anxious that the baby may come any minute and i'll leave, i think... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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np: his desire for attachment with you is a good thing, imho. and he has good reality testing in terms of his anxiety. his whole world is about to change forever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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have you spoken to the counselors to see how he's doing when he's there? he may just be acting out at drop off, esp b/c he knows baby is on the way etc. I'd keep him in camp barring a negative report from the counselors. gl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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I would give the kid a break. He's 5yo, his mother is about to have another baby, he knows his world is about to be turned upside down. So, he would rather be with you than at camp. Big whoop. Let him stay home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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i just had a baby too. my dd is almost 4 and she is at camp where she attended daycare since 1. does not want to go but she is always like that. u need your sanity- keep him there, could he get a bus? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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