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07.07.08, 05:21 AM Newborn
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I had a miscarriage at 7wks and am feeling very down. Since I never told any of my friends about the pgcy, I didn't share with them that i had a miscarriage. I'm in dire need of some uplifting words from people who have been there. I have 1 dd who is 13 mos and am pretty anxious to get pg again. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Newborn 07.07.08, 05:21 AM Flag

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I haven't been there, so have no experience to share, but I wish you well. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:41 AM Flag

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a mc the first time I was pregnant, at 10 weeks. It was devastating, and we had told some people in our immediate families about it. Take care of yourself as much as you can, and you will feel better eventually. My dd was born 2 months ago, and the mc is a distant and sad memory now. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:44 AM Flag

i haven't been there either, but i would suggest sharing your feelings with a trusted friend or two, even if you didn't tell them about the pregnancy in the first place. your close friends would want to be there for you. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:45 AM Flag

op: I'm hesitant to share since everyone is considering going for #2. I don't want to be that friend who miscarried who everyone is afraid to tell they are pregnant. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:46 AM Flag

that makes sense -- so say that to whoever you talk to! I had a friend who got pg at the same time as i did, and she miscarried at 11 wks, but made it very clear that she didn't want me to stop telling her about what was going on with me. you can be totally upfront with people and tell them you don't want to be "that friend who miscarried." [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:55 AM Flag

It really is so common, if you share with a few friends, most likely it will have happened to them as well. I understand what you're going through, as it has happened to me. I hope that you get you bfp soon! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:42 AM Flag

I'm so sorry. I had 2 before my first child. It was so difficult, and I had not told anyone I was pg either time. Try to focus on the future if you can, and the fact that time, whether or not you get pg again, will help (and of course I wish you good luck in getting pg again. Great sign that you have a db already). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:54 AM Flag

Miscarriage is such an isolating grief. It really takes time for healing. Take care of yourself, my thoughts and prayers are with you. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:54 AM Flag