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07.06.08, 20:46 PM General Topics
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Send 12-y-o DS to visit SIL for 6 days and now he's back and saying he misses life with her. So hard to hear. Of course it's easier--no other kids there (she has none), no responsibilities, no rules, only interesting outings every day--but she's already coming back with commentary suggesting that she thinks she's supplanted me. Stupid of me to get sucked into it--she doesn't have kids so doesn't know the primacy of the bond (and has lousy relat. with her own mom), but hurts anyway. Don't want to get defensive with her but want to let her know 6 days of caretaking is wonderful but does not = 12 years of parenting!!! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.06.08, 08:46 PM Flag
 

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Just let it go. Of course your 12 yo is going to like kooky aunt sara with no rules [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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You're right, you're sane, of course, but how do I deal with her smugness????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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what about that old martial arts thing, which is basically overpower your opponent with their own strength, TOTALLY agree with her about how great she is... go on on on and on and on till she shuts the f*** up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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okay, good plan, as long as i don't barf first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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you could make it terribly amusing for yourself, ask her for parenting tips etc, every time you have a contretemps with your kid, call SIL for advice, especially when something complex is happening [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.08, 09:02 PM Flag
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thanks---you're making me feel less crazy for even feeling this way! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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Honestly, just ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.08, 09:01 PM Flag
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