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07.06.08, 19:36 PM NY Schools
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We got shut out from privates, but got anderson. not really happy about it, believe it or not. all these people here fighting about the school, and we wish we were going to a great private in the fall. anyone else out there? i feel we are the envy of all the public school crowd, but will be the focus of ridicule among our peers. wish I could be happier. Hoping to apply out the following year. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
NY Schools 07.06.08, 07:36 PM Flag
 

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You are not the only one. There is a contingent at Anderson that would rather be in private but either did not get in or can't afford it, and gripes about stuff kids of their friends in private have and Anderson lacks. So you'll find some friends there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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Ridicule? Your peers suck. Get some new peers; that ought to go a long way toward making you happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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they would never do it openly, but I know how they think. Only some applied to public at all, and some of them didn't tell but a few people...not even psd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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np: but, again . . . .you need some new friends. And some self-esteem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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perhaps. but I just don't feel good about what I read here. Really disheartened. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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ignore these nuts on ub. but more than that, you need therapy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 04:08 AM Flag
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maybe I should have left out the focus of ridicule part. but seriously we wanted dc to be at a great private. didn't say TT, although my 2 favorite schools would be classified that way. we just wanted private. not really about my friends. I am just sort of unhappy about it all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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no one gets out! you will be stuck there. better get used to it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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just curious - who are your "peers?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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What? This has got to be fake. You are totally outing yourself if you are telling the truth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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np: you don't think there are more than on private school SO? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 03:43 AM Flag
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nnp. That's what I was thinking. No way is OP outing herself here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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There are only 50 dc starting Anderson in the fall. How many of those 50 will apply out for K? Not many. And I am betting that this OP's dc is a summer b-day, so that narroews it down even more. Someone is bound to figure out who this OP is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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It could be one of any 50 moms. OP is not outing herself. Stop harrassing her. Where is Anderson? I thought that was in Wicker park and now the new LaSalle? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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won't tell anyone but the teacher that we are applying out, and will ask for discretion. OP, btw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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question is: why would you want to know who she is? why would you care? and so what if you do figure it out? sounds like you are looking to do major espionnage. to what end? goodness, you people are crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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public school parents are the new police. they will ferret out any dissenters or cheaters. watch out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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There haven't been anderson kids leaving K in years for privates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:45 AM Flag
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Oh the shame of it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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Get a life! What the ---- is wrong with you? Your dc will be fine in public school, it's you that aren't going to be fine, ever! Just relax and let your dc enjoy the school experience. To ---- with your "friends"! Friends? You meant to say enemies I'm sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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When did your child take the test for Anderson? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 03:35 AM Flag
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What are you, 14 years old? You're an adult now; stop worrying about what other people think of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 03:57 AM Flag
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Very hard to apply out from Anderson, especially next year w/ all the doubts circling around the fairness of the admissions process. "Anderson" doesn't always mean "Smart" in admissions circles anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 04:45 AM Flag
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That's absurd, and wishful thinking on your part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:00 AM Flag
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OR is full of it, but applying out of Anderson is not easy for other reasons. They are not happy to have people start going on private visits as soon as they set the foot in the school, so you will get no support. OP better kiss up to the teacher big time to get decent report. They have no desire to help you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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np: ITDA! Anderson will not go against people who don't want to be there. why would they? Different people make different choices, and it will free up a spot for someone who wants it. They have nothing to lose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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They will not go against you but they will not do anything to help. And if you apply to a lot of school and dc misses a lot of school for interview they will be pissed as it screws up attendance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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of course they will help by writing a school report. why wouldn't they. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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The teacher will spend half hour on it, that's it. No elaborate process to fine tune it like preschools have, and if you manage to piss off the teacher before then it will be mediocre at best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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What support do you want. Hand holding? Consultations on what private school would be best for your dc? Public school guidance counselors aren't trained for private school consulting. In the few instances when a family wanted to apply to a private school (usually in later elementary years), guidance counselors always arranged for recommendations, transcripts - what they're supposed to do. And kids always got in, but didn't always go there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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I know someone in your boat who is applying out in the fall. Good Luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 04:58 AM Flag
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i'm really sorry for you that you see your child's school as nothing but a status symbol to be envied or ridiculed. too bad you can't focus on your CHILD and what might be best for him or her and how to make it a positive experience. with your attitude, your child is going to be miserable his whole life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:07 AM Flag
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maybe she thinks private is best for her dc, and is disappointed? I see no reason to say this is all about her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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her post is dripping with "all about me" and status. she says nothing about any school being better for HER CHILD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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as if anderson understands nothing about status! lol! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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You are not alone. We have friends who are going to Hunter and Anderson and are unhappy because they were shut out of the private TT. Don't know your background but many people who went to private TT are more aware of what they are missing out on at H and A and are unhappy. Academically TT is superior and obviously the extras and environment is more pleasant. BUT dcs at H and some at A are very bright so even if the teachers and curriculum cannot live up to say spence, chapin, collegiate etc. dc will do well! GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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how come your dc wasn't good enough for private? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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I hope that you do apply out successfully, in order to open a spot for a kid whose family can happily enjoy the opportunity to go to A. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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fighting HERE? Are you really defining a school by what you experience on UB? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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How much of your friends' and your own reaction is snobbery adn how much is because you think a private school experience is better. I can tell you that your child will learn just as much or more at Anderson than at a second tier private. My impression is that the atmosphere at private is nicer and more appropriate for young children than the atmosphere at public. If your child is sensitive, that could be a problem. If your child is "normal," it won't be a problem. I would ignore anything you read about the parents on this board. It's a very skewed perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:35 AM Flag
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Are all your friends going to TT privates? Because if they're not, you can counter their social snobbery with your intellectual snobbery. Just go on about the great peer group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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would you mind saying what you mean by sensitive? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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np. ITA. We had one of those sensitive dc and chose a TT private over A. But if dc's issues hadn't been a factor we would have sent dc to A in a heartbeat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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I know I sound like your mother but if these people ridicule you then they are not your friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:20 AM Flag
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So completely fake--like many UB posts. Good parody of the sort of vapid concerns a certain sector of Manhattan moms would have though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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So don't send your DC to Anderson. Problem solved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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no other choices at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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I'm sure you could find some place - - Catholic schools, Mandell? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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actually prefer anderson to the lowest level privates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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mandell is full [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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Why do you think you will get accepted in an off year, if you couldn't get in for K? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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I don't know. dc got too young feedback. high scores and usually well behaved. we will see. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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When is DBs birthday? Will you be applying for K or 1st? You might be better off staying in preschool another year and applying from there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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^^^ DC's Birthday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:34 PM Flag
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don't even want to say now that some have posted they will be looking to figure out who we are. yikes! it is this kind of attitude that makes me unhappy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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np I wouldn't even bother applying for 1st. In my dc's tt, there's ONE new kid starting in 1st (because a another dc is moving). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.08.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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