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07.06.08, 16:14 PM Newborn
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My dh's mother called me today - my dh being my soon-to-be-ex-dh. It was so awkward and I felt so uncomfortable because I do not know how much she has been told, she wanted to check in and see how dc were and if she could stop by and visit at some point this week. I think she has good intentions and I am very happy she wants to see the kids, but I also do not know what she knows about our separation and divorce. Should I call dh and let him know what is going on? See what he told her? It is such an odd situation. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Newborn 07.06.08, 04:14 PM Flag

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You don't need his permission to tell her what you want. She's your dc's grandmother and you will have your own relationship with her. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:16 PM Flag

it's just that, dh cheated on me and is currently in a relationship now with the girl he cheated with and even though i think he is scum these days, i don't want to go turning his mother against him or anything [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:39 PM Flag

honestly, try to avoid the subject. If she wants to see db- fine. If she asks- say you are having problems and that you are not the best person to talk to, BUT you hope she will maintain a great relationship with db [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:54 PM Flag

i definitely want to keep things the same betwen my in-laws, myself and my children - it is just tough; i also would really like for my brothers-in-law and sister-in-law to maintain such a relationship, this has been a nightmare month [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:59 PM Flag

You can decide with your dh what to tell his family. Then he owes it to you to tell them, and then everyone is all set and you don't ever have to talk about it with them because they'll know what the deal is - unless you want to tell them things. This is how we ended up handling it and i'm still on v good terms with my inlaws. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.06.08, 06:33 PM Flag

Yes you should ask your dh to clear it up - you need to be on the same page. i am currently going through exactly the same situation, and it was completely messed up when everyone in his family knew different things at different times - i'm not on speaking terms with my brother-in-law now because of it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:17 PM Flag

haha i would tell her every last detail just out of spite [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.06.08, 04:40 PM Flag

it is a good sign that they are reaching out to you [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.06.08, 05:03 PM Flag