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07.05.08, 19:25 PM Expecting
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If both you and your husband are arguing over circumcising your son, who wins? There is a poster below who says her husband wouldn't have more of a say in it, but ONE of you has got to have more of a say, the kid either gets circumcised or not, someone wins, someone does more of a say! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Expecting 07.05.08, 07:25 PM Flag
 

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You really can't decide later. It's a momentary discomfort at birth, excruciating later. [ Reply | More
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It hurts a lot at brith too, don't kid yourself. you're removing part of your son's penis (unnecessarily, I might add). it's painful and takes weeks to heal. [ Reply | More
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If your doc knows what he does it is not more excrutiating than, say, getting a c-section. [ Reply | More
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It hurts an infant *more* than an adult. Two main reasons - you can't use general anesthetic on an infant, and you also have to separate the foreskin from the glans, which is the most painful part of the procedure. If you wait, it's also safer, and the results are cosmetically better too. Almost no chance of needing a "revision" or second operation either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.06.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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YUCK. Gay Uncle here. Nothing is more unattractive than an uncut cock. EWW. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.09, 12:29 PM Flag
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YUCK..gay uncle...get your nasty ass off this site. your whole post reeks of unattractive..the last thing i need for my son to be is attractive to your ilk. [ Reply | More
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What a thoroughly disgusting reply. Shame on you. (And no I don't happen to be gay uncle or affiliated with gay uncle in any way.) [ Reply | More
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Get over it Gay Uncle. 60% of boys are now intact and that number is only rising. [ Reply | More
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Ditto. I like you. I'm not altering my son's genitalia unnecessarily unless there's a medical reason. And cir'd men are the minority in the world. In the US it's about 50/50. [ Reply | More
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lol. Dh has never seen a dick in the locker room other except from the old men who could care less and walk around naked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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Interesting, friend's DH had it done as an adolescent for medical reasons and was disturbed enough either by the stuff leading up to it and/or the surgery itself that he advocated for circ their DSs. But didn't care enough to make the appointment (typical for this guy). [ Reply | More
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Dont be so naive, the FACTS are that there are some benfits to being circ'd. Look it up ol chap. Not circing your son is a cruel and unusual punishment. Everybody I know to be circed are very happy that they were, but almost all say that if they werent they could not go through with the operation because of the thought a getting their cock cut. PUtting a child in a position to decide is unfair, its a painful procedure that should have been done when they are infants so that they dont remembver it and are not traumatized. It not fair to wait when the childs memory has developed and then theres no forgetting what they went through. My best friends newborn had to be sent to the IC unit because his GF didnt want their son circed and his cock got riddled with infection. My god, some of you people make me sick, your going to regret it in a few years when no one will fuck your uncirced sons and when they hire a prostitute they die of AIDS. All because you couldn't step up as a good parent and make a decision and do whats best for your child instead of showing pisspoor parenting skills and putting that burden on a child. Yeah Im just glad none of you uncriced supporters were my parents because you are obviously not very good ones. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.12.09, 12:24 PM Flag
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The facts? What facts? All there is are rumors and inconclusive research! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.16.10, 05:14 AM Flag
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And "not circing your son is a cruel and unusual punishment"? Where do you get this crap, really? I mean, what is more painful: cutting your arm, or not cutting your arm (granted your arm is perfectly healthy)? It's the same with another part of the body... And your friends are happy with it because that's how they've gotten used to it, not because it's better. Heck, cut off people's arms and put them together on an island. All their life, they'll say they're happy because they have gotten used to it, think it's normal and never experienced having two arms. The same can be said about humans having only two arms (which is the normal expectation) instead of three. Only after you experience both ways of life can you truly say which is better, but I think that it's better to leave the parts mother nature granted you (they're not there for no good reason). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 03.16.10, 10:13 AM Flag
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Circumcising in Europe or other parts of the world is very unpopular and very frowned upon and actually in the minority (you Americans always seem to be the oddballs on the globe, no offense), and I don't hear of higher risk of STDs or infections here. Heck, for most of the human's race time on Earth, all humans were uncircumcised and were still living, happy and healthy... and now you come telling me leaving it uncircumcised is unnatural and bad? Talk about pure ignorance (as well as arrogance)... Moreover, I don't think women care about circumcision or not in their partners. Here, uncircumcised people fuck everyday without even caring that their not circumcised, and I suspect it's the same in the US. "No one will fuck your uncirced sons"? I hope no one will fuck your circumcised sons instead, that way we'll be able to get rid of some stupidity off the face of the Earth. And to be honest, I find removing a part of the boy's body without his permission when it could be done later as well (and with anesthetics, so no traumatic memory NOR pain to him, douchebag... but of course, you all know and fear that men with rationale would not want to cut a part of their body that's functioning normally just so you can spread a retarded trend you've been indoctrinated with just to feel normal yourselves) is a violation of humans rights as well as disgusting and awful parenting. If you were my parent, dear sir, I'd shoot you myself later in life when I'd realize what you did to me. It amuses me you call other people naive when you're nothing but an ignorant and arrogant excuse of a human being... please take great discomfort in that 60% of people in the US are not circumcised and that number is rising. Oh, and stop with the false prophecy (and lying), patronizing and preaching, please. And grow a brain as well! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.30.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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Im calling BS on that one. It's ALWAYS the mother who legally has the final say in matters such as these. I would know, I'm a doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.30.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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NOT TRUE!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.30.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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This is BS & if you decide on whether or not to get your kid circ because of a 2nd date you are a complete whack job. Circumcision is barbaric in my opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.30.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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barbaric??? people have been doing this for centuries. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.01.08, 05:32 AM Flag
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LOL now whos the whack job? Since when is ANY medical procedure barbaric? And why would judging getting circed on dates be a bad thing?? THats honestly what it comes down to is fitting in right? I think that making your child go through humiliation like that is far more barbaric than circing. You can say what ever you want you dumb bitch but the fact of the matter is that some girls wont fuck an uncircd guy. Most wont mind true, but theres still a large number that find that shit sick. I would know, Im a dr. [ Reply | More
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BS a lot of really handsome men get laid in Scandinavia all the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.30.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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As well as the UK and the rest of Europe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.30.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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Why doesn't anyone consider that some people actually prefer the look of an uncircumcised penis. I know most of my ex's did. Plus, after I got circed, at age 17 and by my own accord, I regretted it instantly. I'd also like to add that adds to a males pleasure and doesn't effect woman either way, so why is it such a big freaking deal to you people! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.02.09, 09:03 PM Flag
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Actually it does affect a womans pleasure. How would you like to get fucked by a pickle with a loose tissue on the end? most women think uncirced are FREAKS NANANANANA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.12.09, 12:42 PM Flag
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Lady, you're way beyond daft. Circumcised men don't precum as much as uncirc'd ones, and precum is a natural lubricant. So unless you can guarantee that all of your son's future partners will be fountains, leave him uncirced. Also, I've been fucked by pickles with loose tissue on the end my entire life, and I love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 12.04.09, 04:21 AM Flag
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I'm a 20 year old guy who was circumcised at birth and is really happy that I was. Personally, I think uncircumcised penises are rather ugly. I know some of you disagree but that's my opinion on it. Also, I think women (at least American women) are much more used to circumcised penises so they won't give that awkward stare that I've heard happens to some uncircumcised men. I remember back when I was in elementary school there was this one kid who happened to be uncircumcised and a lot of the other boys used to make fun of him for how "different" or "weird" it looked. There are also health benefits I've read about such as circumcised men being less susceptible to STDs. Whenever I have a son I'm going to have him circumcised. I guess to each his own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.12.09, 09:33 AM Flag
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There's ALWAYS such a myopically one-sided representation on UB. It doesn't even matter what the rant is, it's always left-leaning extremists bullying people into believing everyone is entitled to THEIR opinion. I don't know what poll or women you people have asked but not one woman I know actively PREFER the look of the uncirc. penis or would PREFER a man who has one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.12.09, 10:00 AM Flag
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When it turns out that a new partner is uncircd, I'm always disappointed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.12.09, 02:02 PM Flag
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uncircumcised penises are ugly, indeed. And it's not only a question of looks, but um, also hygiene. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.09, 11:36 AM Flag
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yup. and we uncirc'ed men just do not know how to clean our penis correctly. You have to teach me! [ Reply | More
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Apparently not because I have heard a plethora of horror stories about you uh..people. You sicken me with your sarcasm like you being a freak is no big deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.12.09, 12:54 PM Flag
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Wow, a person whose penis HASN'T been touched by a scalpel is a freak? This is how God made 'em, honey. [ Reply | More
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NP: The freak is the person that needs to resurrect a thread from months and months ago in order to spew vitrol about other people's bodies. [ Reply | More
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I prefer un, and know several women who agree. my own random sampling tells me that cut men are less sensitive. I like the extra skin. The ignorant pickle with skin analogy above was clearly from someone who's never seen an erect natural penis -- there isn't that much skin involved. And what guy w/ modern plumbing can't keep himself clean enough? That argument is like saying a girl should lose her labia to keep all the crevices squeaky clean. FWIW, I'm Jewish, but would never have had a son circumcised. I'm glad the custom is waning. [ Reply | More
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Lordy--why is a 20yo guy hanging out on UB? [ Reply | More
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That's for real, LOL!!! [ Reply | More
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Should ALWAYS be Dad's decision. Mom should stay out of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.09, 12:28 PM Flag
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What's the reasoning behind that? Why does dad know better? Most dads were not involved in the decisions that their parents made when it came to circ him or not. From a male perspective having a cut penis or not makes absolutely no difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.09, 12:30 PM Flag
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Because Dad has a cock and Mom doesn't. It's just as silly as Dad insisting he knows best about the care of DD's vagina, and whether she should use pads or tampons. [ Reply | More
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My DH knows as much about vaginas and whether to use tampons or pads as I do. [ Reply | More
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By that logic, a man shouldn't object if a woman wants to cut her daughter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.27.10, 12:20 PM Flag
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Male here. It absolutely DOES make a difference. You must be a woman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.09, 12:34 PM Flag
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No, I am a DH. Neither I nor DW had the last word in this. In the end we agreed that the child will decide for himself when he's older/ [ Reply | More
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Mom here. It's Dad's decision because he has the equipment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 04.13.09, 12:38 PM Flag
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I admittedly must have grown up living in a cave but in my experience (limited?) have never met an educated man from a mc/umc family whether American, or British, etc, who was not circumcised. No opinions, just fact. [ Reply | More
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Do you check the penis of every educated man you meet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.12.09, 01:10 PM Flag
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My dh isn't circumciesed, comes from very educated family, umc, I believe it was because he wasn't healthy at birth and they couldn't do the procedure, but it's never been a problem, and the sex is great. [ Reply | More
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You have definitely grown up in a cave. Guess they did your surgery with a piece of flint? My dh, umc, and very well educated is intact. [ Reply | More
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I have three degrees and speak three foreign languages, and I'm intact. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.12.09, 12:59 PM Flag
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Whose body is it? Everyone should be able to decide for themselves if they want part of their genitals cut off or not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.27.10, 12:15 PM Flag
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no way, no how. not my son. its his little penis. if he wants to be circ'ed later in life that will be his choice, not because "everyone is doing it". i did not listen to doctors, nurses, relatives, or child's dad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.27.10, 12:18 PM Flag
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If our son wants to be circumcised when he's 18 (16 if he knows what he's doing), I'll pay for it and help him find a good surgeon. Until then, he stays intact. His body - his decision. If he wants to be circumcised later, it's easy to fix - safer, less painful, and looks better cosmetically. If we'd had him circumcised, and he wanted to be intact, it's a problem. *His* body - *his* decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.27.10, 12:37 PM Flag
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we both agreed to circ. just plain ugly when it isn't. sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.27.10, 02:05 PM Flag
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DH got his way, but he felt more passionate about it than me. He was more for circumcision than I was against it. So I wasn't really going to go to the mat for it. I had some reservations and I just asked we do some research together before making a choice. We read different pro/con articles together. In the end he still wanted it done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.27.10, 02:08 PM Flag
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Oh god! Get the circumcism. No kid wants to have 'the worm', especially once they're teenagers and trying to get laid. yuck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.27.10, 02:10 PM Flag
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well in the gay community "uncut" can be pretty hot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.27.10, 04:02 PM Flag
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There are studies coming out that show that circ. men have a less chance of getting STDs & AIDS. AAP might once again change their stance on this (as of now they say that their is no medical reason to) . The foreskin is a breeding ground for bacteria. I know that we wash more now, but that is why certain cultures circ their boys because it is cleaner. [ Reply | More
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Just cut the whole thing off. [ Reply | More
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The mother should have NO say in this issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.27.10, 02:48 PM Flag
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there are millions of men who regret having had the end of their penis being removed without their consent, before they could ever say no. do any of you know what it's like when everytime you shower, change clothes, use the bathroom, or make love, you are reminded that you will never be whole? No one has any right to remove a healthy body part from someone without their consent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 01.27.10, 03:56 PM Flag
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Your response gave me the total creeps. Many of my friends have circ, and let me tell you, they aren't reminded of not being whole when they make love or use the bathroom. Get a grip, Sally. [ Reply | More
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