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07.03.08, 12:46 PM General Topics
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OK - who out there remembers their big "sex talk?" Who gave it to you? What about it worked for you? What do you think didn't work? Anyone remember? Want to help me out? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.03.08, 12:46 PM Flag
 

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Why not refer to the man and woman as mom and dad? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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I just remember a book my parents got me around age 9--Where Do Babies Come From? or something like that. I don't remember an official talk at all. And I think my mom really let me down in that department. I went away to college w/o knowing how to put in a tampon or how ovulation works. I want to do better by my kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:47 PM Flag
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op: see? this is one reason i'm asking. no one ever had this talk with me. in fact, when i told my mom in college that she'd never had the birds and bees talk with me she said "Didn't your brother or sister do that?" I want my kids to know they can talk to me about this stuff. I just don't want to do too much too soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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I know what you mean. I'm not there yet with my kids, but soon. My oldest--DS--is very technically-minded, so I see some questions coming up soon. There is a book that is supposed to help sort out what they are ready to hear when called Flight of the Stork. I have it but haven't read it yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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My aunt bought a kids book about sex and I remember our parents giggling while my sister and I read it together. Never a word spoken! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:48 PM Flag
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was that a relief to you or do you wish they'd talked to you about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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It was a relief because my parents were so awkward. I hope I don't have that kind of relationship with my own kids though, I'd like them to be able to talk to be about this stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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I think that the book idea is good (as long as you don't giggle). Ask her if she has any questions, and be really open about it. If you're embarrassed, she's going to pick up on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I have a brother who is 4y8m younger than I am, so I was around 4 and a half... My mom is from Denmark and I have a cartoony but very graphic book she read to me. Has everything from the sex to the delivery. Very 70's. Will have to drag it out for my DD's in the next few years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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I had a book, don't remember what it was called. The one thing I remember quite vividly is a drawing of a couple lying side by side in bed with the penis in the vagina, accompanied by text along the lines of "when a man and woman love each other very much and decide they want to have a baby, he puts his penis in her vagina...." That obviously left an impact!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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Were the people kind of fat? She had curly hair and the man was bald? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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I think I remember that book too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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I found it on amazon - called "where did I come from" by peter mayle. I might have to order it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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Thank you--I may have to get it too. It made an impression, that's for sure. I just wish my mom had followed up more afterwards. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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np: The same Peter Mayle who then went to France and wrote A Year in Provence?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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I seriously doubt it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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Holy crap - I wiki'd him and it is the same guy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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That is too funny! Turns out I love ALL his work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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now that level of detail, I do not remember. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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a dh: dad told me and my brother (1 year younger). He used the Electrolux vacuum fitting and hose as an instructional aid. We were around 6 and 7. I have since learned that they had to do it earlier than they would have liked because the kid across the street (Michael) was a year older and his older brother had told him everything. After he explained everything my dad asked if we had questions/comments. My brother is reported to have said, "Yeah, that sounds disgusting. I hope they find a new way by the time I'm old enough." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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LMAO! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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I've teased him about that for years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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Showed up in school for the big all-school assembly. There was a blackboard and an overhead projector and then the special speaker entered from stage left. Yes, my dad. He explained to the ENTIRE SCHOOL about menstruation, wet dreams, changing voices, breasts, etc. I have never been the same... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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My dad is a shrink. He didn't understand why, as a teenage boy, I did not want to spend summer vacation on the beach with him as he read a book with the one word title in 125 point Times New Roman, all cap! The title, on three lines so it could fit: HOMO/SEXU/ALITY. I can still picture it today, the cover was a really bright green and the letters were the most brilliant white you can imagine. (Funny, I haven't thought of this in years.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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Dad is a Gyno. Says things over dinner like "I hope you girls know the vagina is like a self-cleaning oven." I can feel your pain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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I'm laughing, sorry. If it helps it is that awkward laugh of someone with shared scars... (how'd we turn out so well adjusted?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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Well, when you're body is a mysterious self-cleaning oven that is also "not supposed to smell like a strawberry or a pina colada" you can really soar ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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OP here - while these posts don't help me at all - I'm so glad I asked this question b/c I am laughing so hard at your responses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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I have told my dad he should write a book with his insightful and blunt observations. BTW, mom is an OB nurse / lamaze teacher / lactation specialist and they disagree on 90% of everything. She has some doozies too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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My shrink dad is also the electrolux dad from the post above. I always say "preachers' kids and shrinks' kids... the most damaged goods on the discount table." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:27 PM Flag
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friend's parents are both sex therapists. he's got some big time baggage to contend with ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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ding ding ding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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my son turned 10, and i got him a book, its made for his age, but on the graphic side... we read it together, he felt a little uncomportable, but he would ask questions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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I have a DS 9. What is it called ? I have tried to bring upthis subject, but he does NOT want to hear it. Maybe the book would be good since he likes to stay up late reading. He could learn in private. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:30 PM Flag
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hold on i will go check.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:31 PM Flag
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i got these 2 Boys, Girls & Body Science: A First Book about Facts of Life and It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families.... one is much younder then the other, but they both were great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:38 PM Flag
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thank you ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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I don't thinkn I had a real talk. My mom bought me a set of red & gray books all about puberty and sex ed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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I'm 32, have two dc, and am still waiting for the damn sex talk. Sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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if you have to do the sex talk, do it discreetly, i.e. slip a book under their door. my dad tried to give me one when I was 13 and it was super awkward. yes they need to hear the information, but does it have to be from you? you can do it but you'll probably annoy your kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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Well, this is certainly not the way to be sure your kids will talk to you as they grow through their teens. Slip something under the door? Are you serious? Talk about drugs and alcohol that way too? The only hope we have during these years is keeping the lines of communication open. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:22 PM Flag
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LOL!! Are you planning to slip condoms under the door too? Talk to your child all the time, about everything. Don't send the message that questions about sex are to be dealt with in a sneaky hidden way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:30 PM Flag
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Answer every question you are asked honestly from day one. Use proper terms for body parts from day one. Don't push more info than your child is asking for but never, ever, indicate that sex is anything to be embarrassed about, spoken of in euphemisms, or anything like that. Best sex book to have around the house: IT'S PERFECTLY NORMAL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:18 PM Flag
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My parents told me not to do it until I got married, not helpful at all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 04:45 AM Flag
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