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07.03.08, 12:36 PM General Topics
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Opinions: need to have a basic sex talk with my 8 y.o. I have no moral issue with sex before marriage b/t two consenting adults. But currently, dd thinks you can only have a baby if you are married. We never actually told her this but never disputed this either. As she's only 8, should I just keep the talk about "husbands and wives" since this is a construct she understands? I'm assuming we'll have more talks as she gets older when I can talk about this in grayer terms. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.03.08, 12:36 PM Flag

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At 8 this isn't as big of a deal, but I have read about kids having sex, thinking you actually couldn't get pregnant unless married. I would nip this misinformation in the bud. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:39 PM Flag

OP: yikes - see that's the kind of info i was thinking about. just trying to imagine the ways i will scar my child by having this talk. : ) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:42 PM Flag

I'm sure that there must be a good book that could help you along. I don't think that she's going to be permanently scarred by the talk, but I really don't envy you. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:44 PM Flag

NP: My DD's are 3.5 and 6.5 and have not asked yet (more interested in how the baby gets OUT than in -- I had 2 c.s., so they're still not entirely informed...). The other day I was reading Everywhere Babies with my 3.5 y.o. and she commented on the 2 daddies in one picture, so that's a whole other angle to have to explain (which they already experience in our building, school families, etc.) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:49 PM Flag

you probably could postpone this until she gets her period [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:45 PM Flag

no - i'm pregnant and she wants to know exactly how the baby got there. she knows all about periods and puberty so this will be a follow up from that talk. it really is the right time for my dd. plus - all the "experts" claim that b/t ages 8 - 9 is the right time for this talk. not sure why - just what i've read. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:47 PM Flag

you're right, the heads on approach would be better. They grow up so quickly! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:55 PM Flag