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07.03.08, 10:34 AM General Topics
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getting ready to deliver db #1 in the next week or so, and terrified about the birth. tell me why i shouldn't be. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.03.08, 10:34 AM Flag
 

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because you'll have a wonderful db when its all over! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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because you have no option and because you will have the most precious gift in your arms in no time! congrats and good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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it'll be fine. if you are in a good hospital with good doctors everything will be great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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uh, or delivering at home with a good midwife... or in the hospital with a good midwife... or in a birthing center with a good midwife... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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or: ok, good help, ok? jesus, loosen up. don't be so literal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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good help works. Thanks :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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Because everyone around you with kids has been through it (well, almost everyone) and because once the baby is out you won't care what got him/her there and in a few months after that, you won't really even remember the bad parts of delivery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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1. do NOT let them induce you without a valid medical reason 2. stay off the external monitor as much as you possibly can and 3. labor at home as long as you can before going in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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what's a valid medical reason? my doc said she wouldn't let me go more than a week overdue, but i thought 2 weeks after due date was considered normal. i've had a super-easy pg so far, and all seems healthy, btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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there you go--inducing one week after due date is NOT a valid medical reason. Induction is the new epidemic, I swear (l&d nurse here btw). Don't do it--say no, you'll wait until 42 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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np: and as a LnD nurse you know that many things start happening after the 40th week. Dc gets too big, fluid can get low, ect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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B.S. Anyone who buys that is such a sheep. Stay hydrated, stay active, everything will be fine. A fetus is not going to grow unmanageably big in the space of one week. 37 to 42 weeks is the normal range of full-term pregnancy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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I was born at 42+3 and only weighed 7lbs! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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np--I was born at 42+3 too!! I was 9 lbs, and my mom is tiny--and everything was still totally fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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that is you. I was born at 42 wks and weighed 10 lbs 11 oz. can you say C-SECTION [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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And babies have been born even bigger than that vaginally. Your mentality is the reason we have a 40% c/s rate in this city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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my mentality? Are you a moron or what. I commented on my mother's experience. Did I say that any baby above 10 lbs can't fit through the vagina? No I didn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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I know, but I'm just saying that birthweight can vary greatly at any time - as you see. My mom was very healthy during her pg as well, so you can't blame it on that. I was just small. I was a c-section as well because she labored for 36hrs and I wouldn't come out! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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wow - what do you weigh now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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me, 7lber is 5'7" and I weigh 130 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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np: Those aren't reasons not to be terrified. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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No, but having some good information can help someone feel less scared. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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There is always pain relief. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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because an epidural is a marvelous thing - makes it totally managable and great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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blecchchhhhhhhhhh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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I've done it both with and without the epi and NOTHING makes labor "great." Had a way better time without it, btw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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I labored for 3 hours before I got the epi, and was SO SO SO much calmer and happier and in control after I got it. To each her own, I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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3 whole hours?!?! Oh my GOD! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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I'm just saying, it was long enough to experience labor without and labor with the epidural, and for me I preferred it with it. My entire labor was only 6 hours, by the way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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When I was pg, we saw a birth vid where the someone said, it feels like your being ripped in half, but you're not. It's important to remember the "but you're not" part. Less scary that way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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i think i saw that video! i only heard the "being ripped in half" part, lol. thanks for the reminder! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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it will be fine. If you want to get meds, get them. When pushing, find a focal point in the room and concentrate. I did this 2 times and both times were great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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thanks, very good advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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Everyone who is a mother has done it. Unless you are doing it alone in the woods, there will be competent people around to help you and make sure you and the baby are safe. In all likelihood, the whole thing will only be 1/2 a day of your life. And you'll forget the bad parts immediately as soon as the baby is here. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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np. Well you forget it until you read a thread like this one. It's all come flooding back now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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op: this is where ub rocks! totally needed to hear all the encouraging words from other people who have been there. thank you! i think today's freakout is over, but i might be back tomorrow. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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You shouldn't be because 1) it is counterproductive 2) it has been done since time began and you will be fine 3) you can have all sorts of drugs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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because women have been doing it for millenia, and you are going to have medical care available that is better than 99.9 percent of them had. what exactly is scary? the pain? they have drugs for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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It will be fine. Remember the point is not to have a certain "birthing experience" if you come home healthy with a healthy DB that's all that counts. And don't feel guilty about pain relief if you want it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Because I slept through mine. Seriously. Once the contractions became painful, I got an epidural. A day and a half later, they rushed me to the OR for a c-section. I was asleep on the table and didn't feel a thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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because your body is designed to do this! trust in yourself...for me, childbirth has been the most empowering experience of my life... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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