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07.03.08, 07:18 AM Preschool/Kids
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Poll: Who gets tutoring for their DCs? Why? What grade is DC in? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Preschool/Kids 07.03.08, 07:18 AM Flag
 

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Define tutoring? DC has dysgraphia and I work w/ her a little each day. But it's more like OT than what I think of as tutoring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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Are you asking about remedial or "enrichment" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:36 AM Flag
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I'm asking about both. It seems to me like a lot of people in DS's preschool are hiring tutors. I don't know why and am not comfortable askin. I was wondering why people would tutor such young children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:54 AM Flag
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you know the answer. People hire tutors for preschool children as test prep for the admissions tests and onsites. If you are looking for a names - you won't get them here. You won't get them from contemporaries - you will need to find a good friend or coworker with older children who will tell you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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How do you know they're hiring tutors if they're not talking about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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OP - Nannys talk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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Then ask them :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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That's the way to win friends, start drilling the nannys on what the parents do to "enrich" their DCs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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np. This is what I was thinking. I can think of half a dozen dc in my dc's grade being tutored, but none of the parents have ever mentioned it to me. I always hear this stuff through the nannies/sitters or occasionally from the dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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What grade? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:06 AM Flag
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Entering 2nd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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why would anyone tutor a first grader? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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I don't get it either, but I think that there is a lot of this going on that no one talks about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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Mostly for reading and drilling on math facts from what I've gathered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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But why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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I'm not sure. I think a lot of these parents are determined for their dc to excel and be at the top of the class in all that they do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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but they won't be - when the tutors stop - they will have no work ethic, no confidence - they will be lost and fail. It's a really bad idea. I don't undestand why parents are so clueless about this. Turn your child off to learning for fun, make them feel stupid (because they think they are the ONLY ones who need a tutor and everyone else is smarter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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For some dc the tutoring never stops. And I'm not sure the dc think they're the only ones. At least when they're younger they still talk about it openly, which is why I know about it in a couple of cases. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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Their parents tell them not to discuss it, which adds to the shame. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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That's awful. I guess these kids' parents haven't told them it's a secret yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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I know! They just start calling them "life coaches" - you can sell stupid people just about anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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I was a child that wanted to be tops in most everything I did - that comes from within, not without. And when you tinker with who your children are - you are playing with fire. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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Well, yes and no. There's nothing wrong with trying to teach good habits to a dc who doesn't come by those behaviors naturally. I agree there's a limit to how much you can push a dc before it becomes harmful, but that limit is different for different dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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being the top of the heap in everything you attempt is not a "good habit". You can't take a child who is not competitive and make them want to be the best in everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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I never said you could. But you can teach dc good habits than enable them to excel if they have that potential. And being naturally competitive isn't enough on its own, either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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^ I guess technically they're second graders now. Still. It seems excessive to me. A friend from college is now working as a reading specialist and his favorite time of the year is summer because he make a great living while staying in the Hamptons, tutoring all the dc on vacation and going to the beach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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vomit, but happy for your friend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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lol I feel the same way and told him so. He didn't take offense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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We are doing enrichment at SCORE! just over the summer for 8 and 11yo dcs. Only 2 hrs her week after day camp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:55 AM Flag
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What is Score? I have seen it around but don't know what they do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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drill and kill stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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ONLY 2 hours a week? lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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I know. Why would you send a child to "summer school" if they don't need it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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Dcs both need math enrichment and tend to forget a lot by the time school starts again in the fall. Older dc going to competitive middle school, and is likely to get slammed in math if she does not do some light enrichment over the summer. Also, needed something for them to do after camp, and 1hour 2x/week is not bad, especially since they enjoy it anyway since it's "computer time". No worse than doing workbooks, which I never had the time to sit there and grade anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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It sure sounds your kids do not fit into the schools you chose for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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Both in public schools with great reputations. Older dc graduated from much-coveted D2 G&T, but 5th grade teacher was not great. Older dc had a great time in class this year, but coasted through the year, particularly in math. Younger dc likes doing workbooks anyway, and also finds school very easy and eager to learn new stuff, so I figured it won't hurt her since older dc needs to go anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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DS is entering 1st grade and his kinder teacher offered to work with him some over the summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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Does he have a specific area that he needs help? Or is this just for general enrichment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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She's working with him on reading & writing. He is at grade level but a little behind where some of the kids in the class are (many entered reading and he did not). She felt he was right on the cusp of a lot of growth & it would be good to take advantage of that. He doesn't work well with me if I try to do reading/writing activities with him. So I just read to him a lot and she does the more intensive stuff with him. We're actually pretty laid back parents, but since she offered & he works so well with her we went ahead with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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Wow, what an involved teacher. I'm sure you don't want to name the school but is it Private? Public gen ed? or Public G&T? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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Public, but we're in CA. We do pay her. She does this for only a few families each summer. We feel very fortunate--she has been a very special teacher for DS. He's made a lot of breakthroughs with her. So to be able to extend that experience is fantastic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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do you pay her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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for free? That would be weird to me if a K teacher offered to "help" for money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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I got a tutor for my preschooler to help with handwriting. It was clear DC couldn't decide if he was left or right handed (both run in our family), and as a result wasn't comfortable using either. The preschool wasn't doing anything about it, and I didn't want him to go to kindergarten without being able to write his name! Long story short, we got a great tutor (a teacher at our zoned public school) and DC now loves to draw and write! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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Please tell me that this is a joke. Please? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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Um, it would have been pretty hard to get into private school with a kid who can't write his own name. I wouldn't have had to do it if he had a good teacher at his preschool who would work with him. And I was hitting a stone wall when I tried to work with him at home. As it turns out, he's left handed (and I'm not) so I had no idea how to help him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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np, its not a joke. There is NO WAY a child who cannot write name will get into private school. It DOESN'T MATTER that it is a developmental thing and is absolutely meaningless in the long run (how many adults do you know who cannot write?), its something required for the insane private school admissions process and you cannot get around it if you want to play. That is why people have their dc tutored in preschool as above poster already stated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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That kind of bears the question: why would you do such a thing to your child then? So she gets into a private school? F*ck those schools if that is really the case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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Yeah, I don't get it. Don't the privates know that it is just a developmental issue. Why would they care? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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Sounds like he needs OT, not a tutor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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You'd get a first grader tutored in math if your school had progressive math like Everyday Math and your child was not learning basic math facts or operations. In my school, lots of parents have their second graders tutored in math or goign to Kumon for this reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.03.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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