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07.02.08, 09:33 AM Toddler
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Wohm - do you ever worry that your nanny is spoiling your child? My nanny loves my 2yo dd (which is great) but I worry that she is will create a spoiled brat. She picks her up on demand (much more) - basically she makes her the center of her world. I try to take a more balanced approach. Will dd understand that parents views are more important? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Toddler 07.02.08, 09:33 AM Flag

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not if the nanny is with her a lot. Can you talk with your nanny about being a bit less catering to your dd? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.02.08, 09:34 AM Flag

op - nanny is with her 10 hours / day. I'm working on it, she's chinese so its very cultural (she has not family in US). We're also epecting #2 in January and am concerned that dd will not adjust well as she's used to 110% of attention. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.02.08, 09:35 AM Flag

you need to work on this now or you will have issues when #2 comes along. Talk with your nanny about being a little less hands-on wiht your daughter, letting her walk and figure things out for herself. It will be better for everyone in the long run [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.02.08, 09:37 AM Flag

I hear your pain...I live in China at the moment and our nanny is doing the same thing. I understand that according to HER culture the child is really the center of the world but she's got to understand that this is NOT a child of her culture and that she needs to respect your wishes. When my nanny and I bump heads she seems to think that it's OK to run to my husband (since he's also Chinese) so she can do it her way, which drives me crazy. What I did was spend about two weeks with her and corrected her behavior when I saw it and basically observed. She might very well revert back to spoiling my daughter but I will find another nanny if I have to and I've made sure she understands that most of all. She is not the mother and she shouldn't be making any of the rules...stick to your guns. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 12.22.08, 07:13 PM Flag

this is another reason i prefer daycare. my dd's daycare does such a great job of teaching manners. they're warm and loving, but very firm. dd is only 20 mos but always says thank you (well, more like "go gu, mama", but we know what she means) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.02.08, 09:43 AM Flag

you will never find a nanny that does everything exactly the way you want it done. as long as you are consistent in YOUR approach, you'll be fine. children learn to differentiate what's ok with one adult as opposed to another. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 12.22.08, 07:17 PM Flag

Sounds like she's a loving Nanny. Be grateful. You want your dc to feel loved. You only create a spoiled brat by not disciplining and giving kids material things instead of real love. Sounds like your nanny is giving your dc real affection. Nothing to worry about. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 12.22.08, 07:19 PM Flag

ita. no matter what hours nanny spends with child, child knows you are the mom and you are more important. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 12.22.08, 07:23 PM Flag