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07.02.08, 08:24 AM General Topics
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VENT: Mil is a HUGE PITA. Years ago we bought her $$ pots and pans for her bday since she needed new ones. She complained and said you should have given me money instead..do you still have the receipt? Fast foward to this yrs bday gift. DH gave her money in a card and she tells him..oh I wanted flowers. That bitch is never satisfied and always makes my dh feel bad as if he can't get it right. I told him next yr she will get a card and flowers and we will remind her what she said this yr. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 08:24 AM Flag
 

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Why do you let yourself get so worked up? You can figure it out going in that she will complain, so know that and prepare yourself not to take the bait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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op: what I get upset about is how she makes my dh feel. He's the only one who does anything for her but she still puts down his gifts. She is ungrateful and when I see the disappointment in dh eyes, it makes me nuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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Well, yeah, I could see how that would suck. You could always say something to him, without actually badmouthing her, like "honey, I think its a nice gift. You always do something thoughtful..." He's a big boy and he knows his mom pretty well- it does suck when your mom is mean, but he can also buck up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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yes I don't badmouth his mom but I did tell him that he knows how she is but what he did was great. She's just a pill. SHe has 9 kids and he's the only one to do anything for her but she takes him for granted [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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That sucks for everyone. At least he has you and your kids and you guys all appreciate him and love him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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yes. I just wish his mom did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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You can't change her, though. Sometimes if you accept people for who they are, it frees you up not to react. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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a dh: The only thing that really bothers me about my crazy, pain in the ass, mother is how much it bothers my wife. I came to grips with the person my mom is when I was in my early twenties. I compartmentalize it and am fine. I don't expect more of my mom than I get. My wife (whose mom is awesome) goes nuts. Then I have to try and talk her down and she brings me out of my comfortable little cocoon. Just my $.02 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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op: thx. It just irks me how she is so ungrateful to the only dc (out of her 9) that does anything for her. She doesn't appreciate how great he is with her. I know he has come to grips but I see in his eyes how her digs get to him. Thanks..what you posted makes a lot of sense [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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I would just add, "Hey, I'm sorry your mom sucks but I love you and the kids and I think you're great." Would not be unappreciated... -or [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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My mother is like this about gifts. Always has been. I still remember listening to all the arguments between her and my dad over him getting her the wrong thing. Once, it was actually the wrong color roses. ANYWAY -- as an adult, I deal with it by shopping for her the same way I would anyone else I care about; I try to get them something nice, something they'd like, within my budget, etc., and I intentionally DON'T keep receipts because I just don't have the time to go running around the city exchanging stuff for her. I actually think she has learned a little gratitude and that her attitude has improved slightly. GL, it sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 09:44 AM Flag
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