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07.02.08, 07:11 AM General Topics
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One of my closest girlfriends may have a drinking problem. She jokes about how much wine she drinks and that she should probably drink less. She is a great mom but under a ton of stress with three DS's and a husband who really is a 4th child, but I wonder how I should respond when she says "After a bottle and a half of white last night..." [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:11 AM Flag
 

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"wow that's a lot-- do you ever worry about the drinking?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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yeah thats supportive and kind...great way to reach out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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OK what's your suggestion? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:31 AM Flag
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myob. I would hate my friend to tell me she thinks I drink to much. She may also be exaggerating on the amount. I do this - say omg I drank a bottle last night but it was really a half [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:21 AM Flag
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Yes. I don't want to say anything as I think that if she ever wanted to talk about it, she would contact me. i want her to not feel I am judging her, but am here to support her. My only worry is that I know her mother was an alcoholic and died from something related to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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keep your mouth shut. she's a big girl. if her mother was an alcoholic then she knows what she's doing. there is nothing you can do or say that would change anything except your friendship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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thank you. I love her and just worry sometimes. I think she feels a bit alone in her life these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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np: then be there for her. she won't stop drinking, or cut back, until she preceives it as a problem. but you can try to make her feel that she needs it less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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i'd say to her flat out that she's drinking too much and unless she is addressing the issue and trying to correct it, you do not want to hear about her drinking at all. she shouldn't mention it to you. b/c every time she mentions it and you laugh it off or say something mild, she is validating it in her own mind (she'll tell herself it's not a secret, she's not ashamed, people know, ergo it's not a problem) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:43 AM Flag
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I think that's pretty hostile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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yeah, say this. And then look forward to not being her friend anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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I think half of this board has a drinking problem, myself included. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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