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07.01.08, 14:01 PM General Topics
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wwyd? please help! bil has behaved totally inappropriately (long story short, nothing sexual has to do with attempting to steal $$$). my sister is due with baby soon. i had agreed to go to their house and help out for a week. but now i cannot stand to be around my bil. should i just not go to their house to help with baby? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 07.01.08, 02:01 PM Flag

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go and support your sister. bite your tongue about it and just be helpful to her. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:03 PM Flag

op: sister just solved it for me. she totally supports what he's been doing and wants ME to look away as THEY continue to try to steal money. i'm glad i don't have to go up there now [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:14 PM Flag

np: What are they doing that's so awful? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:16 PM Flag

well if she's shady too, you get a hall pass ! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:17 PM Flag

op: she's always been shady. you can't trust her at all. but i just thought i'd help a little because, frankly, we don't have anything better to do...and our dcs entertain each other. otherwise, they are totally untrustworthy dysfunctional people. i used to be one too. but after 14 years of therapy and 6 years of al-anon, i feel ok saying that i'm not THAT dyfunctional anymore [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:20 PM Flag

I am so glad that you don't have to subject yourself to a week of that. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:25 PM Flag

Well I like you. I like people who save themselves and understand themselves. Go be fabulous somewhere else ! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:26 PM Flag

op: thank you! this is one of the nicest things i've read all day! i have plenty of survivor guilt (alcoholic family). but now that i have a dc, i am so focused on providing him with a stable, healthy and positive family that i don't have much time for survivor guilt anymore! again, thanks for the support [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:29 PM Flag

be proud of yourself. a person who knows themselves and confronts what could break them is so far ahead of the pack in so many ways. I admire you. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:31 PM Flag

op: THANKS! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:36 PM Flag

that sucks. Were they trying to steal from you? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:24 PM Flag

op: they are trying to steal from a trust fund. they are definitely trying to steal from their children (i am the trustee). if they could, they would definitely steal from me. i mean, there's a reason i was appointed as the trustee [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:26 PM Flag

You sound like you're totally on to them though. It actually sounds like it could be a Showtime series: Cool insightful sister moves in with dysfunctional sister and BIL to watch them as they try to get their hands on family fortune. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:29 PM Flag

op: LOL! I would actually love to watch that!the sad thing is that there is not a fortune to be had. my parents had a good bit of money after working hard for years and years (despite one of my parents being an alcoholic [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:31 PM Flag

op: hit enter too soon. there's no fortune. most of it was spent on nursing homes and medication. there's a very nice little nest egg left....but we're not even talking about a million [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:34 PM Flag

when you have nothing (I'm just assuming that sis and BIL don't have much) everything looks like a lot. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:34 PM Flag

op: thanks for saying i'm cool by the way. i've never been...and somehow at my age, it's still nice to hear to be totally honest [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:35 PM Flag

that's really sick. I wouldn't stay with them for fear they would swipe a credit card or too. Who steals from their own children? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:30 PM Flag

ummm thieves ? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 07.01.08, 02:31 PM Flag