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06.30.08, 19:42 PM General Topics
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2 yo is a great kid but we are having real struggles with listening, following rules, etc. He doens't seem to understand timeouts. Sometimes he responds when I tell him no, sometimes not. The only thing that is effective is physically getting down, grabbing him by the shoulders, forcing him to look at me, and then telling him very firmly (kind of meanly) what he's doing wrong and what he should do instead. What am I supposed to be doing? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.30.08, 07:42 PM Flag
 

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not that...he's 2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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So what should I do? It feels a little harsh which is why I am asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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geez, he's not a dog (and, frankly, i wouldn't treat a dog that way). he's 2--ignore annoying behavior, reward good behavior (this will also work with most dogs, btw). stop mauling your kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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OP: Today this was when he was playing with an outlet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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get outlet covers. Child proofing does wonders for lessening the need to discipline. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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OK. It was at someone else's house but I hear your point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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stick a couple in your purse--they take up very little space [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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^^^also, distraction works wonders at that age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Thanks. How about earlier today I was trying to change his diaper and he ran away from me and then kicked me while I was doing it despite my saying no kick, trying to distract, etc? What to do in that situation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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sometimes you just need to calmly repeat things. No kicking mommy. Don't get worked up. Look him in the eye and say it. When my dd was around that age she ate sand at the playground. I jsut had to say it over and over...no eating sand. One day she got it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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I wouldn't even bother to say no after the first time. If distraction doesn't work, just wordlessly change his diaper--it's fine to hold him down while you're doing that. Remain calm--toddlers love big reactions. And keep rewarding good behavior. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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my ds is the same way, and I feel as if he listens to my dh more than me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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Think of your disciplinary techniques as a toolbox -- you need to match the tool for the job. What you described is fine for playing with an electrical outlet IMO, as long as you use gentler techniques for milder offenses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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That's a good way of looking at it. I let a lot of things slide b/c I don't want to constantly be nagging at him, but safety and hurting others seems like it should be taken seriously. I want to be effective but not mean! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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