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06.29.08, 17:22 PM General Topics
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Feel so awful for the poster whose husband has been having an affair with 21-y-old. Wanted to weigh in as most people seemed to think he'd seriously want to be with the babysitter. My father had an affair with our babysitter, and it wasn't just a one-night stand. She was a live-in babysitter and it went on for 6 months at least, if not more. I was a teenager at the time and HATED him for it. Babysitter was 22 years old. My mom was ready to divorce him and he begged his way back. I refused to speak to him except when absolutely necessary for at least a year. They stayed together but I maintain that things were never the same between them since then. Their marriage is okay at best. He adores my mom but she's still, to this day, a little distant from him. (She used to be lovey-dovey; she was living afterward, but not the same. Ever.) [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.29.08, 05:22 PM Flag

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I am curious if you knew about the affair while it was going on? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:25 PM Flag

No, I didn't. But I was there for the massive fight they had when my mom found out.In hindsight, though, I realize I started feeling like the babysitter was acting a little too snooty for me -- she was so much nicer then was just weird -- and wonder if it started then ... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:27 PM Flag

So ultimately do you think your mom did the right thing by staying? Your family was wealthy and she was able to hold on to her lifestyle (which is important, I am not minimizing). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:29 PM Flag

My family was not wealth, more middle class (or I guess upper); she was more of an au pair. I am torn: On one hand, I am proud I have parents who are still together and have worked through things ... on the other, I have to be honest, I know it devastated my mother, and me, and I know their marriage has sometimes been very strained. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:31 PM Flag

I think that the DH will come to his senses - the drama/danger/excitement of a young new body in a furtive and scary situation will supercharge any relationship. I hope that the wife can ride this out for a while until everyone comes back to reality. THEN she can decide if she should leave and how much he will pay for the screw up. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:27 PM Flag

Why did your parents have a live-in babysitter if you were already a teenager? Indeed, why have a live-in babysitter at all? Inviting another woman into the household is only asking for trouble. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:28 PM Flag

My brother was 5. They both worked and [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:28 PM Flag

^^^and she was more of an au pair I guess. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:29 PM Flag

Maybe if your mother took care of the kids herself ... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:30 PM Flag

Excuse me? My mother had to work as she was sending money home to support her parents. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:31 PM Flag

np: ignore this poster, op. She is crazy. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.29.08, 05:42 PM Flag

wow. what about maybe if her father took care of the kids himself? sexist idiot. [ Reply | More