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06.27.08, 18:22 PM General Topics
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Is this normal behavior: two people are in a room having a conversation. One person, we'll call him DH, gets us. The second person, DW, says, "Where're you going?" DH says, "To the kitchen." Time passes and DH does not return. DW finds him on the sofa in the other room watching TV. Isn't it normal/courteous to say, "I'm tired of talking, I want to veg in front of the TV," or similar, rather than just leaving the conversation and not coming back? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.27.08, 06:22 PM Flag
 

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It's annoying. But I'm guessing he knows you'll be pissed if he says he's tired of talking with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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It's not even that -- it wasn't "a talk" or anything, just what do you want for dinner, DD wet her pants at camp today, what time are we going to visit the people who forgot to teach you anything about being sensitive to anyone else's feelings? -- he's left the room when we're watching TV and gone into the other room to watch something else without even mentioning it. I'll think he's gone to the bathroom, and 20 minutes later I find him watching elsewhere. It's like he thinks he's here alone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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That is so annoying. But I think a lot of men are like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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NP: why does he have to clear it with you every time he wants to watch something else on TV? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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He doesn't. But we're watching something together and he gets up and leaves, or, this evening, we're having a chat and he gets up and leaves. Like he's a f**king cat or something. You picked me as your life partner and you can't spare, what, a dozen words? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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I don't know. Maybe you're not conveying it well enough, but this doesn't seem like a big deal to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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you need to talk with him so heunderstandshowthis makesyou feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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BTDT a zillion times. The thing is, when he's said something bothers him (e.g. me putting my purse on the dining table), I've made a conscious effort not to do it any more. To me, if it is important to him, it is important to me. To him, if it is important to me... What's on ESPN? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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I think it's not that big a deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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OP: That's fine. But it is a big deal to me and I have expressed that to him and he apparently doesn't care. At all. It's not the thing so much as the general attitude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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your post asked whether it was normal, and in my experience, it is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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he wants to tune out without having to ask for permission i guess. i agree his behavior is rude. he needs to join an etiquette class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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OP: That's all I am saying: common courtesy and a bit of attention paid to those around you, and their feelings! Dude, if what you are doing can make me cry, then maybe you need to think a bit about your behavior. Took myself for a long walk, came back, and his eyes never left the screen. Have decided that I am not speaking to him until he apologizes to me (which he is incapable of doing, and he also can't accept an apology, this is how his parents are as well) -- should be a GREAT weekend! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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you sound hypersensitive and kind of needy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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Well, maybe. My mom has breast cancer, my cousin's wife is dying of ovarian cancer, I work F/T and have a lot of stress at work and do 99% of the home stuff. I'm exhausted. Just need a little common courtesy. I am sentistive and attentive to his issues and want the same back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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or: I apologize then. You have every right to be sensitive and needy right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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But you're making it a bad weekend. LET IT GO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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Yeah, I know, just venting here, really...No one else to talk to about it. Funny thing is, even if I did do the silent treatment, I don't think he'd notice : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Maybe just follow him from room to room and continue talking then. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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