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06.27.08, 17:57 PM General Topics
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Does your DH come home and expect to be left alone because he thinks he's the only one who had a bad day? Like no one else in the world is tired....just them. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.27.08, 05:57 PM Flag
 

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no. Not at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Does your DW immediately accost you when you come home and just need to unwind a bit? Because she thinks she's the only one who had a bad day? Like no one else in the world is tired... just her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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NP: By accost do you mean expect to participate in bedtimes chores and/or family life? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Just trying to give some perspective here. OP and her DH need to talk about how she can get some help and he can get some space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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no. he's reasonable. i'm the one who comes home and collapses on my bed , still glued to my bberry. listen.. it's hard sometimes to transition from work to home. especially if he's in a job where everyone wants a piece of him. it's hard to come home and immediately delve into home issues with needy children and needy spouse. give him a little time to decompress..maybe 30 minutes or so.. then start engaging him in whatever is on your mind.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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Yeah, has zero consideration for anyone else. Acts like he lives alone, just goes about his thing. Sees nothing wrong with parking it on the sofa for HOURS AND HOURS and letting me do everything -- laundry, kids, etc. Pretty much only helps if I ask. If he, say, empties the DW on his own, I make a point to say, "Thanks." He does not ever thank me for the 9 zillion times more stuff I do (without being asked), and then also expects praise for doing whatever little bit of housework he has done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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sounds like my brother in law. my sister has her own law practice yet is married to a "traditional" guy who doesn't believe in doing much of anything for the kids/ housework/ etc. she ended up posting a list of who does what on the fridge over the course of a week. he was shocked when he read and was shamed into helping out a bit. unfortunately that only lasted a week or so and then back to the couch for him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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Sigh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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If he feels like earning money for the family is his sole responsibility, then can he spare some of his hard earned coin to pay for a housekeeper or part time babysitter? You deserve to have some couch time too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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We both work FT. We have nanny when we're at work and a cleaner once a week. I don't MIND doing the laundry or whatever, what I do mind is when things are boiling over, so to speak, he won't ever get up to help unless I ask. Like, my job is to sit here on this sofa and watch TV for hours on end, and I really should do my best to do only this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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^ and make exactly the same amount of money, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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Wow. I thought you were SAHM. My DH and I both work FT so I empathize with you. You're in a tough spot. You embody the classic case of working the second shift when you get home. And I'm sure you want to be upbeat and happy for the sake of your DC. I'm sorry your DH is seemingly incapable of action. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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