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06.26.08, 18:16 PM General Topics
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My 3.5 yr old is having horrid tantrums. We're talking up to 4 a day lasting for 1/2 an hour sometimes. And it's frightening her 15m old brother. I don't know how to help/control her anymore. Any suggestions? The tantrums are about the littlest things--not finding a toy, getting her dress wet, etc. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.26.08, 06:16 PM Flag
 

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she needs alone time with you. make it happen. make a regular weekly date with her sans the little brother. you will see a change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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ITTTTTTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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I'm a SAHM and am with her 24/7. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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^^^and we have 2 mornings a week just us. She won't let anyone else (ie: dad) help her to the potty, get her dressed, or do anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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my sisterinlaw buys in to that crap with her 2.5 yr old. if she wont let dad help her go potty or get dressed, she should remain undressed. my new tagline is " i wont negotiate with terrorists." :) either daddy helps you get dressed or you dont wear clothes.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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you can't help/control her. leave the room area while she screams. itr feels good to get it out sometimes. when mine starts schrieking i tell her to go to her room and let it all out, and she can rejoin us when shes feeling better.. have you tried that? or is the problem that its in puclic..only in NYC are people intolerant of a public meltdown [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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I have been trying to get her in her room, with her loveys and calm down. But she just doesn't. She keeps going and going. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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it sounds like, im no shrink, you are trying to calm her down by the "get her loveys" comment. Tell her to go to her room until she's calm or drag her there screaming. she will get more upset, but im telling you, this totally works with mine. she cries for 3 minnutes tops and then comes out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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yeah, my 4.5yo is like this too -- gets hysterical over the littlest things, v annoying. luckily for me, 18mo couldn't care less, so it's not quite as tough (I think it bothers me more than anyone) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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sounds like you really need to make an effort to make the time you have alone count. take her to alice's teacup do "special" things with her while you have her alone. I know it's hard but don't take calls. devote that time to her. you will see a shift. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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I try to make it count (not in NYC BTW) -- but our alone time, for the most part, consists of the time when the baby is sleeping (about 2 hours a day). So we don't get a lot of time alone together out of the house, but we certainly do have time together (and believe me, I'm not spending a lot of time on the phone!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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I disagree withthe poster. You are spending plenty of time with her. It's a stage. Dont beat yourself up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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my 3.5 yr old is just outgrowing these tantrums; they were scary! She could go on for 40 minutes, and it would be similar- something minor like not being able to find a shirt to match her skirt. I talked to my own therapist about it, and she told me just to talk to her about emotions- is she sad, mad, glad, etc. and get her to talk about it as much as possible. And we just were patient and waited for her to outgrow it. If you makes you feel better, I convinced myself that she was an especially sensitive and intelligent child to have such hellish tantrums. So yours must be too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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