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06.26.08, 10:22 AM New York City
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married moms or divorced ones at that: if you met someone who was very handsome (you were very attracted to them), powerful, and wildly wildly successful (hundreds of millions) but they weren't very warm or affectionate, and they were more often then not very withdrawn would you marry them? or would you marry the not rich, not ambitious, kind of cheap guy who you had the best sex of your life with and is one of the best friends you ever had? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 06.26.08, 10:22 AM Flag
 

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money [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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please elaborate. why do you feel this way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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are you writing an article? An orgasm last mere seconds. To quote a lovely lady, First time love, second time money, third time companionship. That pretty much says it all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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i am in this bind kind of. not two proposals. but its a long story [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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And if you are dumping guy A - give me his number, I won't let him get away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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same here... after being married to a "cheapo" for 7 years... I'd go with the rich one- as long as he treats you well, you can do w/out lots of affection [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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I wouldn't be attracted to or respect the unambitious guy- that is a huge TURN OFF for me, so the sex would automatically suck, and the contempt I would feel for this freeloading lump would make him not my best friend for long. (Cheap is OK, a loser that can't pursue his goals or doesn't have any is not OK. This could mean he is passionate about a non-lucrative job). If the powerful handsome guy married you, that means he loves you... if you loved him it could be OK (maybe withdrawn just means quiet or understated personality)- so option 2 with conditions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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no. i could have married into one of the riches families in the country, but he was too boring. he was very sweet and treated me like a queen, but I need someone who i connect with on all levels. $$ can't be a consideration when it comes to who i'm going to spend my life with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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who says marriage is for life? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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his family requires an iron clad prenup, so it wouldn't have been worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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which family? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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it would be tacky of me to say specifically, but they own a major hotel chain as well as some other stuff. not the hiltons. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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who did you marry instead. financially what is his story? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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he's my soulmate, but comes from a family that's a financial liability on us. I don't regret it for a second, although i hate his family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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what does he do? what kind of life do you guys have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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he's an attorney, as am i. i put him through school when he was in his 30s, though, so we make an ok hhi but are not as financially set as we would be if we'd gone to school right after undergrad (i took a couple of years off before law school too) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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you misunderstand. I said nothing about a settlement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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lol-i've watched too much law and order to think about trying anything like that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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The poster was describing what she needed in a person she was going "to spend her life with". Pointing out, 50 of marriages end in divorce. Who says its for the rest of your life with either guy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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ah. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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oh, I thought you meant i could have married him then pushed him off the side of the yacht or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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yikes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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till death do us part. that part [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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^^btw, op, i didn't read your post carefully enough. My answer is, obviously, marry the best friend. life with the first guy would be unbearable for me. you are so lucky to have found a parnter you connect with - most people never find that, thus the bitter "go for the money" answers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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I'd wait for the third guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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best friend, you will have more fun and be happier... powerful wildly successful guy more likely to leave (I am assuming) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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what if he never left? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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you may wish he did... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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BEST FRIEND, no question! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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money - no question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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why money over best friend> [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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why get married? have fun. hang with best friend have amazing sex. continue to go out with rich handsome guy and see if he warms up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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unfortunately this isn't so easy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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and it kind of ruins your relationship with your wonderful friend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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DEFINITELY THE BEST FRIEND. are you in this bind. please do that, the other is a bad idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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THE BEST FRIND [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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Have you ever relied completely on someone for financial stability (which is what will happen if you go for the rich guy - you'll never be able to afford what he can give you and you'll always be using his money)? I once was dependent, totally, on someone for a year, and the experience was suffocating and took away any sense of personal power I had, except to be manipulative. Never again will I rely on money. Go for the real gold, friendship. You can't buy happiness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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ittta [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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what is ittta? I couldn't find it in a search [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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best friend. money on that level is actually gross to me. while people think it makes life easier, every houselhold i see..it complicates, deludes and detriorates people. Especially if there is no love there. Ewwww....life is about enjoyment. Fancy things are not enjoyable if i don;t enjoy the person i'm supposed to be enjoing them with! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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the not very warm or affectionate, kind of withdrawn guy would drive you nuts over time. you need enough money to have a roof over your head and food on your table. studies have proven that money above and beyond what you need to cover the basics has nothing to do with lifetime happiness [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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Why are those my only two options? Am I so pathetic that only two men in the world are interested in me? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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I wouldn't be attracted to or respect the unambitious guy- that is a huge TURN OFF for me, so the sex would automatically suck, and the contempt I would feel for this freeloading lump would make him not my best friend for long. (Cheap is OK, a loser that can't pursue his goals or doesn't have any is not OK. This could mean he is passionate about a non-lucrative job). If the powerful handsome guy married you, that means he loves you... if you loved him it could be OK (maybe withdrawn just means quiet or understated personality)- so option 2 with conditions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.27.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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