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06.25.08, 15:11 PM General Topics
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I just got a telegram for my neighbor by mistake and it says that her Aunt Ida died last night. What do I do now? How do I tell her? How can I prepare for the emtional tidelwave that will come? Should I bake something for her and give that to her before I tell her? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.25.08, 03:11 PM Flag
 

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That is so terrible, I hate when I have to discuss death with neighbors, I can never stop crying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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No, I would bring the telegram over right away, and just hand it to her. After she reads it, offer any help/support she needs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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Should I have a cake standing by? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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If you have it made already, sure, just don't delay telling her to bake one, maybe bring one over later tonight. If it was delivered by telegram, the aunt must have lived outside phone range... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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^^^I didn't know people even used telegrams anymore. Although my last two friends that died, I found out via email, which is much worse... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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Did the subject line inform you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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for one, yes... It was really traumatic for that one too b/c she was one of my best friends and it was quite a sudden death. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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WOW....why e-mail and not a call? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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I used to work with her, and another co-worker remembered that we were close, and all he had was my email. The co-worker was also a bit socially awkward, so I don't think he realized exactly what he was doing... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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I'm sorry but the whole scenario or the subject line totally cracked me up. But sorry for your lose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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I will bake a cake when I get home from telling her and bring it over once I am done with it. I am pretty sure it will help her get through this massive wave of grief that will overcome her house and life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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Yes cake will make it all better. In fact if it's really good cake she will be pleased you called round regardless of the news you are bringing. ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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NO! WTF with the gd cake? Give her the telegram and call her later. Ask what you can do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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Also how do I tell her? Do I hand it to her? Do I tell her and hand it to her? Should I hug her first? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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Hand it to her, and wait... When she's done say how sorry you are. She doesn't sound like a good friend, so let her set the tone... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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Well we have coffee together every Tuesday morning at 9.....so we are kinda close. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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Then I would tell her staight out... now go to it, it will do no good procrastinating, because if she wants to go to the funeral, she probably needs to get moving... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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OMG [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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A telegram? where do you live, 1932? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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I don't know why it came via telegram. I didn't know telegrams were used. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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I would sit her down and maybe put on Lawrence Welk or something soothing. Then - while you chat recipes and you new jello-mold (even if you haven't gone to get a new one with your green stamps, pretend) blurt out, "Oh gee. I just don't know how to tell you this, but your dear Aunt ida has passed to be with her maker !" and see how she takes it. I'd have some Sanka on hand with an apple brown betty [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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OMG, If you only knew how F'in funny that is I can barely type, you're making the baby inside me laugh as well...It's been a long time since I laughed this hard, I wish I could send you a cake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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I hate it when a fake post gets this much attention. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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lighten up, ethel. it's fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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you know what? i AM pissy. for weeks my posts with legitimate questions have been ignored so it does annoy me to see this bullshit get attention. you either have to make something up or think your dh is having an affair or no one responds anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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I disagree. What have you posted about ? We're here for you. All for one and one for all. Potty training ? Check. Sleep disorder ? check. Breastfeeding ? check. School trauma... not so into it, but others obviously are. Let it go. I'm listening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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A telegram? They still exist? Just give it to her and tell her you got it by accident. Then later send over some food or flowers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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I didn't realize it was fake, it seems too stupid to make up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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perhaps a "coffin" cake? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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Was it a singing telegram? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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