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06.25.08, 09:24 AM General Topics
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3yo dd is very sweet. When she sees her friends she will run to them and hug them or want to hold their hand. One friend (whom mom I am friends with) has decided she doesn't want to and pushes her away. What would you do as the other girl's mom? Let her push my dd away or say, be nice, she is your friend? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.25.08, 09:24 AM Flag
 

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i think if i were the other girl's mom i would scold my daughter and tell her to be nice, yes. but some mothers won't do that. and that might be ok too- to not make an issue. it'll be ok, my heart always breaks for my dd when she's rejected, but i don't think it bothers her as much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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that is how I feel and it bothers me that she is so passive about [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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My child is not a hugger but I would not allow her to push her friend. I would make her apologize and I would explain to other child that my dc does not liked to be hugged an that maybe they could find another special way to greet each other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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what can I do if my dd is pushed and the other mom doesn't say anything about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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I think it's ok to tell other dc that it is NOT ok to push and that she hurt your dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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this is what i do too. my dd does not like to hug or hold hands so i am trying to teach her to say "i don't feel like holding hands now." rather than getting upset or running away from her friend, which is what she usually does. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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I think adults do children a disservice when they make them hug/kiss/etc people they don't want to hug/kiss/etc. I expect my kids to be nic ebut I don't force them to hug or kiss anyone (but me! But that is about me not them.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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they shouldn't be forced, but if they are pushing kids away and not being taught how to properly greet a friend and being rude and mean then they are also doing them a disservice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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if dd doesn't want to hug or kiss, i suggest she give the other kid a high 5 (same with adults). always hated being made to kiss ancient great aunt with a beard when i was a kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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if i were your dd's mom, i'd tell my dd not to hug that girl b/c she doesn't like to be hugged. and i'd show my dd other ways to greet people and let them know i'm happy to see them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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I totally agree. OP, you need to teach your child respect. Hugging someone who doesn't want to be touched is disrespectful. teach your dd to ask before she hugs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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I know you want me to say that pushing is bad, but honestly, touching another person without their permission is bad too. Both of my kids hated to be touched without their permission. They both had like this personal space bubble and they couldn't stand it when people went in it without asking. to kids like that, your child has essentially pushed them first, and they are just pushing back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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