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06.25.08, 08:20 AM General Topics
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Anyone know if both parents have to be Catholic for db to have a Catholic baptism? Dh is Catholic and I'm Episcopalian - neither is very religious but still want to baptize db. I'm wonderting if I'm going to have to "convert," but maybe not because db is it's own person? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.25.08, 08:20 AM Flag
 

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Did you get married in Catholic church? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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We got married in my Episcopal church because I would have had to convert to be married in his Catholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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Then why not have the baptism in the Episcopal church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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That would be the other option, but I think he really wants a Catholic baptism and I don't really care at all. For the wedding he didn't seem to care much but now that kids are involved he has more of an opinion. As I mentioned I don't care either way...and would technically convert if I had to, but would prefer not to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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Wonder what God thinks when you stand in his house and pretend to believe something for a situation like this? Would be very interesting to know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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Believe me, I know. But if it's important to dh for the sake of db then I'm willing to do it for that purpose. I think db should at least have opportunity/option to decide for himself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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My wife is Catholic -- I am not. We got married in a Catholic church. (You got bad advice on this one. The RC Church allows interfaith marriages.) Both of our kids have been baptized in a Catholic church. Do you intend to raise them Catholic? That is the issue. You are expected to answer yes to that if you are going to have a RC Baptism. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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Interesting - we were told I would have to take classes, convert, etc. Yes, we do plan on raising him Catholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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From whom did you get this bad information? That is really old thinking and just wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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Interesting...dh's hometown priest in MA, maybe we misunderstood and that was what they required, but he gave us the impression that was the case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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They can't make up their own rules. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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np: My BIL is currently in a 6-month pre-cana (sp?) class in order to be married in his fiancee's RC church. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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Even Catholics do that. Everyone getting married in a RC church does. That has nothing to do with his not being RC. (Ours was over a long weekend. Seemed like a good idea until about three weeks before I realised it was the World Series weekend.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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no, only one parent has to be Catholic. DH should join a parish, though, if he hasn't already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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I believe any God Parents must also be Catholic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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usually just one (because you really just need one godparent.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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depends on the church, but nowadays generally only one must be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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Good point - he hasn't done that in NY yet, but we could do it at his hometown parish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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it's not a big deal, some parishes you can do it online. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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np: So, he doesn't believe he needs to go to church BUT this he feels strongly about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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He feels strongly that the child should be raised Catholic as he was and therefore given the opportunity/option to decide when he's older what he wants to follow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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Oh, so he is going to go to church every Sunday. (FWIW, I go with my family every Sunday even though I'm not Catholic. I find it relaxing and enjoy the family habit/experience of it all.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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Yes, that's why we're bringing it up now because we are going to start going again. We've gone a few times with a friend trying to decide where to join. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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If the catholics won't let you, the epis surely will! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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I'm Catholic, dh is not, both dc baptized Catholic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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Should not be an issue as long as you agree to raise the child Catholic. It's about the child not you, right? The bigger hurdle will likely be getting your child baptized if your dh is not a parishoner anywhere. I find church secretaries are really a pain about stuff like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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from the tone of her post, she doesn't plan on raising the child Catholic. She plans on letting child decide [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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We plan on raising the child Catholic so he has the foundation and then let him decide once he's able to make that decision, similar to what dh has done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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No, my nieces were baptized in a Catholic Church, and he's Jewish. I think he did have to promise to raise them Catholic. Surprised he didn't get hit by lightning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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God has a special place in his heart for Jews :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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OP: hmm. Wouldn't it be pretty to think so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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well, he owes them after the Holocaust [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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I think you got your answer but, NO you can baptise your child if only 1 of you is catholic. good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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np. I found the Catholic church to be very flexible regarding baptism. I think they want to make sure it's done, even if parent's faith is a bit shaky. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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I guess that makes sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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