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06.24.08, 19:20 PM General Topics
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Doesn't anyone else feel vaguely uneasy about sending their 4 year old in a room alone with a SB, Olsat, WIPSII etc tester for 45 minutes? I don't care if it's the regular tester, they are a complete unknown stranger to the parent. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 07:20 PM Flag
 

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didn't have even a second of discomfort [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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How could that be? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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np some people aren't worry warts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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aka neurotic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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What makes the tester any different from any other stranger? If you were offered a free kiddie toy for your child's involvement in a room with an interviewer for 45 minutes you'd probably jump on that too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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np: That is an absurd answer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.15.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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The nurse who raced DD out of the delivery room the moment she was born was also a complete stranger to me. Sometimes you have to trust the professionals to do their jobs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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NP- My husband accompanied my newborn in the hospital whenever he was taken by anyone for a test. He never left his side if taken from the room. I scored a C section and could not move. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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You are fortunate that was an option. You can't follow a DB into an OR. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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My DH followed me into an OR in an emergency. He'd never have left visual contact with his child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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How did he stay awake for so long? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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You should be asking me how I stayed awake so long! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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True. But I was picturing your dh not sleeping, keeping an eye on his child, until everyone was home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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Ahh I see. Yes of course he slept every now and then as did I. We had a private room. He handled 100% care except nursing the whole time we were there. Slept in one of those pull out chairs. If our son was being taken out of the room for any reason - he accompanied him. At the time some nurse at a hospital down south had taken a newborn. He had to teach me how to swaddle and diaper. It was a wonderful memory and he was such a natural. He'd just finished the Karp book I didn't get a chance to read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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thank god for home birth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.14.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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No. Never even thought about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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NP: I have a DD . I would have not liked it if the teacher was a male. Come to think of it, I believe all the teachers were female. She greeted my DD and offered her hand. I felt comfortable. I am super paranoid about everything. I really go by instinct. I did not get a negative vibe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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You think females are especially trustworthy? Like the head of that east side school who was indicted on molestation charges several years ago? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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almost all child predators are male. not 100% but pretty close. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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i work with child trauma survivors, and this si completely wrong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.14.08, 02:50 PM Flag
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np: I think you are confusing TV with reality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.15.08, 07:40 AM Flag
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the only time I thought about it was for the sb, since that took place in a private office. otherwise olsat and erbs were in public centers with people all over the place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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I wasn't worried about the tester, but I wasn't sure my dd would be comfortable going down the hall with a stranger at age 3.6. The tester came out, called my dd's name and engaged her in a gentle conversation about the animals she was playing with (at the ERB office). My dd was very comfortable and he later remarked on this in the notes. In our experience, the tester was very good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Yes. I chose not to test DC 1 for this reason. I also felt DC was not ready for that at 3 (fall b'day). I tested DC 2 with some hesitation, but in the long run I think the whole process is absurd. DC tested very high but we ended up choosing private. I don't think you can test such young kids for giftedness. A high score is an indication of something, possibly, but a low score means nothing. The DC could be having a bad day, little sleep, a cold coming on, etc. I think we should wait to start G&Ts until the kids are older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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if it bothers you, don't submit to the test then. otherwise, deal with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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You are obviously a person whose life is filled with absolutes. So sorry for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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OMG! These folks are pros, they test hundreds of kids, if there were even if a whiff of impropriety reported they would be off the approved tester list. Can you spell HELICOPTER? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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http://www.wnbc.com/news/12520577/detail.html?rss=ny&psp=news --- so much for a whiff of impropriety [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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oh please, that's news because it's a female teacher having sex with a 13 year old boy. The chances of your 4 year old being molested by a tester while you're outside the door are a teeny tiny fraction of the tiny chance that you'll be hit by a car, yet you still risk crossing the street every day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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I didn't say I was panicked - just vaguely uneasy. You wouldn't feel vaguely uneasy leaving your 4 yo with a backup caregiver from an agency for example? I cross street every day yet I am aware of the possible risk and do so defensively. By the way the trusted head of that school molested several boys over the course of many years, it wasn't an isolated incident. The alter boys at a church I recently attended happened to be in their 70s. I suppose parents of young boys weren't vaguely concerned? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 09:41 PM Flag
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you know that statistically, your kid is more likely to be molested by someone they know, not a stranger, right? like a close family member. just sayin'. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 10:22 PM Flag
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like the tester who spends time at their school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 03:01 AM Flag
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What do you make of the fact that hundreds even thousands of moms send their 4 yos into a room alone with a tester with no worries and you have unease? Does that tell you that there might be something off in your perception/thinking process? Because it should. This is not a case where everyone is careless, and you are appropriately careful. This is a case where you are paranoid - and your child is probably in greater danger from your paranoia than any thing you are worried about. Seek help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 04:58 AM Flag
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It's fine. The OLSAT is problem because the people giving it aren [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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^^^^^'t trained and thus the quality of tester varies much more so than in the other tests - but there is no reason to afraid for your child's safety. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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Do you think they will molest them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 05:12 AM Flag
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Let's see. I'm a tester. If I'm like most testers, I'm a middle aged female from that well known pool of sexual molesters of 4 year olds. The anxious mom is outside my door. I know the mom is going to ask the child many questions about what the child did with the tester. My entire career is based on working with children. How could I possibly resist the urge to molest little Sally or Johnny? I can't. that's why there are so many tester-molesting-children scandals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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i love you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.14.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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you are nuts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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by the time dc was tested she was starting her third year of pre-k, had already had 2 nannies and assorted other sitters, as the other posters said, you need to let professionals do their jobs sometimes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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Not at all. But if you don't like it, don't do it. Life doesn't end if you don't go g&t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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You're going to have a long couple of decades (of parenting) in front of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.25.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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Yes, and what about it? The parents of Etan Patz didn't have that luxury because they relied on the decency of their community. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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You are seriously nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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Nay *you* are seriously nuts :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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You are indeed ignorant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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The parents of Etan Patz let their six year old walk to school alone. If the child had been walked to the door by his sitter or mother, it wouldn't have happened. The community didn't kill him. his sitter's crazy boyfriend did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.14.08, 02:47 PM Flag
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I can see, OP, that you are just venting. Don't worry about the venomous crackpots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.14.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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Who the hell is digging out these old postings? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.14.08, 11:44 AM Flag
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General Topics 08.14.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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how can you tell - where do you find the date of the posting?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.15.08, 07:33 AM Flag
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np - Click on "options" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.15.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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Click on Options [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.15.08, 07:41 AM Flag
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NO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.14.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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