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06.24.08, 13:52 PM General Topics
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My SIL who I've posted about before (she's supported by DH's parents, who are old and my FIL is very ill, she is a psychologist but doesn't work fulltime and her DH didn't finish college and is currently employed installing cable), just announced that she and her DH are going to try for #1. Considering that her parents give her several thousand dollars a month, MIL was their first db's "nanny" for the first year of its life, now pays for daycare, and they live ridiculously extravagently for people who make no money, I can barely contain myself. I understand they want to have a second kid, but seriously, they need to put themselves together before it happens. MIL/FIL cannot support them any longer, and DH and I certainly won't, but i know they'll come to us for help. DH needs to have a talk with his sister, but how should he begin? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.24.08, 01:52 PM Flag
 

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he should talk to his parents - tell them they need to say something if they aren't willing to keep supporting your sil [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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He - and I - have talked to his parents endlessly. They are dealing with his father's illness and are the overly worried types who freak out about everything, and won't let their daughter "struggle" on her own. However, they financially can't afford to keep supporting her, esp with FIL's medical bills [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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Your DH could say something to his sister, but I doubt she will care unless the money actually stops coming in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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op - I think i agree, but I don't really know how to deal with it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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I just can't get over how irresponsible they are to want another kid in this situation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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Well it is their life. Your ILs need to stop being enablers, but otherwise it is SIL's life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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Why so bitter? Do you have everything you need? Just let it go, it has nothing to do with you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 02:51 PM Flag
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except it does have a lot to do with me. This is my dh's family, and if his parents are sliding into bankruptcy because his sister is selfish, then I KNOW they'll come to us for money. We are comfortable and have never asked dh's (or my) family for anything, but we're not in a position to give handouts to his sister [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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