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06.24.08, 10:18 AM New York City
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how do you deal with the loss of a parent? any btdt? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 06.24.08, 10:18 AM Flag
 

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my Dad died about 2.5 years ago and it has been tough. It's weird losing a parent as an adult. He was not a part of my daily life anymore. I miss him at odd times. What specifically are you having a hard time with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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I lost my mom last week and I feel quite empty inside. I also fear my own death and what would happen to my kids. I break down at odd times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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sorry for your loss. Was it sudden? I think that can make it harder to deal with. Grief is a tough thing and it takes time. Don't expect to get back to "normal" vert soon. Let yourself cry. It's a big deal. If you feel unable to function, get some help from a therapist who specializes in loss. I would not recomend meds if you can avoid it. I think it's better to feel your feelings (again, unless you are unable to function) You just have to go through it and there really isnt an easy way. it sucks and it's hard. Very sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Good advice, I am on auto pilot for now since a lot needs to be done but there are a few moments that just are terrible. I am trying to be strong for my siblings and father but it def hits me at times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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it will continue to be terrible off and on for awhile but eventually it will be ok. You don't get over something like this but you learn to integrate it into your life. There are some great books out there about grief. CS Lewis actually wrote one called "a grief observed" that was great for me. It's about losing his wife, so some things won't apply, but a lot of it resonated for me. Sorry again for your loss. It's tough but you can get through it. Just make sure that while you are being strong for other people, you also allow yourself time and space to grieve. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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sorry for your loss, i agree let yourself grieve and feel the loss. loss of a parent is very difficult. i also agree that you may need to talk to someone about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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lost my step father a few years ago - we were pretty close; after a week i wasn't even back at work - took me a while to start to feel 'normal' again...don't be too hard on yourself - it takes time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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To the OP: it's so hard losing a parent! I lost my mother 15 years ago. I cried myself to sleep for 2 years straight (no joke). Grieving takes time, and the moments of missing her are so much more poignant when you want to share your kids with her and she's not there. Be kind to yourself, give yourself plenty of time. It's a cliche, but time does heal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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lost my mom as a teen and you just go day by day and slowly slowly the hurt becomes less. i know it doesn't help now in the think of it, but the natural order is for us to lose parents and we are capable of adapting and going on. it is the other way - the loss of a child - that i think scars permanently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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