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06.23.08, 19:28 PM General Topics
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Does anyone have parents who drink everyday. I hate talking to my mom on the phone some nights when I know she's been drinking. It's painful. Tonight I got off the phone with her quickly and made some excuse and she sent me a very hurt upset email. We've had problems before about her behavior with others when she drinks and she always thinks I am harping on her and judging her. She told me in this email that she wasn't drinking tonight and that no one else judges her and that I drink so how can I judge her. How do I handle this. I love my Mom and we have a usually great relationship but the drinking and she also takes blood pressure medicine is pushing me away. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.23.08, 07:28 PM Flag

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I'm sorry, I don't have any good advice for you, but I can certainly relate. My father was a "high functioning" alcoholic till the day he died (at 76); nothing could persuade him to give up his nightly vodka. My mom was also an alcoholic but not high functioning like my dad (they were divorced); fortunately she finally got sober when I was 14, but it profoundly affected our relationship. I know how hard it is, I'm sorry. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:41 PM Flag

DH thinks his parents are functioning alcoholics. They're 71 and 73 and they drink every night - maybe one night off a week. Usually FIL has a couple scotches and then maybe wine with dinner. MIL has white wine, sometime up to a whole bottle herself. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:43 PM Flag

OP: My mom and dad both drink everyday but my dad doesn't change his behavior at all. He holds it well. But he covers for her and gets upset with me and say she doesn't have a problem and to stop upsetting her. She used to drink around the kids but I said no more of that. That hurt her but what else can I do. She is in complete denial and thinks I am harping and judgemental and making stuff up. I don't want her putting herself in an early grave with this. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:47 PM Flag

That's how my DH feels about his parents. How much do your parents drink? And how old are they? DH's parents seem ok with the drinking, they handles themselves pretty well, are always fine the next day. Sometimes I wonder if they're really alcoholics, but it's true, it's a lot, almost every night. It's not good. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:50 PM Flag

OP: my parents are usually fine the next day but I have conversations with my mom she doesn't remember, she slurs her words and denies it. I can't listen to her and just want to slam down the phone when I hear her. My Aunt (her sister is an alcoholic) and I have confronted my mom many times and talked up the health issues and that we love her and want her around and she gets very hurt and defensive saying she's not her sister. She can only have 2-4 glasses of wine at night and slur because she on medication for blood pressure etc as well. I am so tired of it but she's a good mom and grandmother. I don't know what to do but ignore it. She's not going to change. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:56 PM Flag

I think 2-4 glasses of wine a night is a lot. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:16 PM Flag

This is how my dad grew up -- every night, a shaker of martinis, then wine with dinner, then after dinner sherry -- very waspy Bronxville types -- but oddly, I didn't see my grandparents drink much once they retired and moved to cape cod. I'm sure it didn't enhance my dad's health in his later years. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:49 PM Flag

Mine has a scotch every day at about 5PM. Usually just one, though sometime when her ears turn pink I can tell she's had more. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:48 PM Flag

everyone in my family drinks every night. Not till we're drunk but wine with dinner [ Reply | More

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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:57 PM Flag