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06.23.08, 18:39 PM General Topics
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I want to stop yelling at my 6 year old. He doesn't listen, particularly in public. He thinks every request/order from me is an opportunity to "debate" with me on its merits. Today, we were at Staples, and I had walked out with my youngest who was in a stroller and my 6 year old was right behind me. But he turned back to return to the store so he could "find Dad" (my husband had stayed in to find his sunglasses which he's misplaced in the store). I said to my 6 year old "No, you come here right now please". Then the stroller started rolling down the sidewalk (I had let go of it to talk to my eldest) and as it started rolling I said "L, come here RIGHT now!" and he kept screaming that he was going back inside. So I ran towards him, grabbed his arm too strongly and said "When I ask you to come, you must COME! Especially in a public place blah blah blah". I grabbed my stroller, which hadn't rolled but a couple of feet in the end, and I said "for this, you get no t.v. tonight" (which I admit was too strong a reaction) and he started wailing and crying huge tears. Now, I do this too often. I over react and shout when I shouldn't, I allow him to push my buttons. I am weaning off anti-depressants after 15 years, and am doing great, except for this anger issue which really comes on suddenly--like it's hard to control myself. I am journaling, and very aware of what's happening, but I really hate taking it out on my oldest. He is VERY verbal, argumentative, funny, and generally a very loveable kid, but MAN, he thinks EVERY SINGLE THING is up for debate. Any help/books/sites/ideas? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.23.08, 06:39 PM Flag
 

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I've done that too. You do what you have to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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