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06.23.08, 16:29 PM General Topics
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Friend - more an acquaintance to me, great friend of friend - gave birth to child this weekend with Down's. She knew there was a very high chance the baby had Down's but being religious she would never have aborted... I am so sad for her and cannot imagine it... but I'm also angry, but weirdly sort of "on her behalf" that she has benn so programmed to believe that this trial is a "gift" form God... Bullshit... [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.23.08, 04:29 PM Flag
 

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not to be judgemental or anything... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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I don't know your friend and I'm not religious (and very pro-choice), but I would not have terminated for Downs--not because it's a trial from God but because children with Downs can have wonderful, full lives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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I know they can... I just feel like this woman who's barely making it right now has something so huge to deal with - mentally and possibly financially and physically - and it's so not "right"... The very clever post who says I'm being judgemental is simple minded. I feel for this woman and cannot fathom the weight on her shoulders right now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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np life is not fair. Get used to it. At least she has the courage to face her life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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she does... now does her DH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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hopefully so. It's their child. Perfect or not. He/she is family. You deal with family. It makes me sad how many people abort for downs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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Lady you are being judgemental. Life is a bitch sometimes. This woman is trusting her own belief system will carry her through this. I don't know what else you want from her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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I know this sounds crazy, but it seems like people have a very lovely life as parents of kids with Downs. I'm not saying they'd prefer it or it's easy. But they're loving as a rule, frequently very functional (especially with good schooling) and bring a lot of joy into a family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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she is as loving as any mom could be... that is true... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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How should she think of it? I'm not religious at all, but understand that others have different beliefs than I do. If she believes her child is a gift from God good for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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what a strange reaction. I guess I understand being angry that people are born with challenges but to think that kid would be bettetr off dead is just strange [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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Maybe it is strange to you... but it is strange to me not to believe you have a choice... she does not believe there was a choice... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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of course she had a "choice". She chose differently than you did. Why does that bother you so? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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because I have an awesome feeling of superiority and I am naturally a nasty and pessimistic bitch... that and my cousin has Down's and it has been a huge huge thing for her parents and I think people look at it as a simple "issue" when it is not... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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Seems like this woman and her family saw this as more of a black and white type of thing. Just because you don't feel the same way doesn't make her beliefs wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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the choice was right for her now. I worry that it isn't the same down the road. That's all. I'm trying not to use ellipses and it is very difficult...ahhhh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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OR I'm sure there will be challenges but life is challenging. It is also precious. I learned that from watching my Dad die a slow painful death from Parkinsons. He said it made him realize what a gift life is - even when he was incontinent and unable to walk. Challenge does not make life worthless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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I know it is not worthless, but it doesn't have to always be so difficult, and these people lost their home in Katrina, work for themselves (insurance is not a happy subject) and now this. It's overkill on the "trials" no ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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you have a choice not to use ellipses, lady, and you gotta use it. Sorry all, carry on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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It's a habit from herb caen. They worked for him and I like it... sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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but I like your post very much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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np what do you like about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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I like grammarians [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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life is full of challenges. That doesn't make it not worth living [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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