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06.21.08, 18:34 PM General Topics
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We are not fixated on schools. Recently met two women who went to TT private high school here which now costs around 25K and they went to these dinky little colleges, got married and are aside from sahming never had great careers or incomes to show for it. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.21.08, 06:34 PM Flag
 

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Yes, and? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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These women are not exceptional in any way and had somewhat average career paths. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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OK [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Big education costs resulted in average outcomes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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ding ding ding [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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But - and I'm a public school mom - isn't education about educating the child? Not about what they end up doing in life? I just want my dc to be happy and do work that makes her happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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nah - you want her to have power, success, recognition and wealth. We all do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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Actually, no, not necessary. I really believe that loving your work is the most important thing in life. Well, second to finding & living with someone you love and who loves you back. If dc is successful in both those things, I will be happy too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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That's absurd. We don't all want that. Especially those of us that have it now. DH is super successful and makes loads of money but has almost no life outside of work. Neither him nor I want that for our kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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is there a point to this? They sound happy, and maybe going to a TTHS gave them enough confidence to do what they really want to do with their lives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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social worker? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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NP - omg what's wrong with being a social worker? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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perfect JOB for a democrat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Honey - step away from the wine. DH will be back from his business trip soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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Republicans believe in less government and more private enterprise. They believe people will be better served/helped by charity, business, and individuals than by the government. So it seems that Social Work would be the perfect job for a Republican. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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aaaaaaaaack [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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the career of social worker came to be because of federal spending [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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There are a ton of social workers who are not working for the government (federal, state, or municipal) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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are they social workers? what's wrong with that? I'm not a SW if that is what you are asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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just b/c you spend a lot for school doesn't mean you are going to be a top level executive or make tons of money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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So why spend the money if you are going to Princeton to become a social worker? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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NP - you clearly only care about $. Some of us value the actual education. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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Why not? BTW we are talking about HS not college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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Wouldn't they have been happier if their parents had more money (like 100K) to put into a retirement plan or a trust for grandchildren? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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no, b/c maybe their parents don't do stuff like that. They should be happy that school was paid for, they got an opportunity for a great education and hopefully they took advantage of it. Just b/c their "career path" isn't what OP thinks it should be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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But that's like investing with no return imho [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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ok. I think of it a bit differently. They got a great education, hopefully they took advantage of it and then they were lucky enough to do what they wanted to with their lives. A good education isn't just about what you can produce financially, it's also about being well-rounded and happy and satisfied. If they are those things, then who cares. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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most kids in privates are stressed and over pressured and over worked. if they won't be more able to provide for themselves one day, I would say you have wasted your $$$,and they their time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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Please, almost all kids grow up to be adults able to provide for themselves one day. They won't all grow up to be investment bankers making millions if that's what you care about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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Wow you sound really insecure. I went to mediocre public and to Ivy but I think getting a good education is an award in itself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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What are you contributing to the world at this point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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Better yet - what is OP contributing? I'd bet your average social worker makes more of a contribution. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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I'm not going to out myself. Suffice to say, I am contributing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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oh please, like you would really out yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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I would. My friend hang out here and would instantly ID me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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Unless you're Mother Teresa and last I checked she was dead you won't be outing yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I'm not saying I'd out myself to EVERYONE but to the people I know who UB here, I woul.d [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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So if you know they're here and they know you're here why do you care? Oh. Riiiiight. You're sh*tting on their schools and their choices. Some "friend" you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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BINGO [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Whatever. You are just so proud of your money and career. You are probably an aunt mommy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Actually I recently quit a very lucrative job to WAH part time and spend the rest of the time with my DCs but it sounds like struck a chord and completely hit the nail on the head. You sound like you have a huge inferiority complex and, despite your protestations to the contrary, are exceptionally fixated on schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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I have a career. We have enough money. I just think you are bitter about not having legacy status. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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I think you assume a lot and you know what happens when you do that. Have a lovely day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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hah. Look at your own post! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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Sounds like OR was spot on. Whoa - defensive! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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NP- where does she say she has money and a career? Talk about playing your hand BPP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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So - tell us what you do if she isn't right about you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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I get your point. My midwestern relatives all went to public schools and then did college and grad at Yale and Harvard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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So what are they doing now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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I guess you are not fixated on schools, but you sure are fixated on materialsim. Is that what you learned in your HS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Not at all. Just find it crazy to spend big dollar on privates when you could be contributing to or helping turn around a public school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I can't speak for your friends but turning around a public school is not as simple as you make it sound. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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Obviously she has never set a foot in a bad public school if she thinks one mom/family can turn it around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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I went to a TT school (K-12), then to a well-regarded liberal arts college (but not the "best"), and then taught nursery school for many years (and received a master's from a very good in early childhood education from a top school). I was a great teacher and I loved the age -- even though some said that it was a "waste" of my schooling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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yello [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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Did you teach at a tt nursery school too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Eventually. (My first job was at a neighborhood, no name school -- which had its positives and negatives.) I now work in admissions (not in NYC), but miss the classroom and the little ones sometimes. My point (in posting) is that everyone takes a different path -- and I consider myself lucky to have found a career that I enjoy (no matter the "prestige"). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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What's your point? Does going to a TT private school mean you are somehow obligated to become a brain surgeon? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I totally disagree with OP and her premise but I do notice that more public school kids are successful if you look at the list of prominent alums. But I think that's because they just have more drive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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Or maybe its because there are so many more public school graduates than private school graduates? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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In general, that's true. But look at a list of prominent alums from any private school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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Instead of spending 20K on dc's private this year why not send him to public and give the public 20K endowment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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$30K [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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That would be fabulous for our little public elementary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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hello? it's called breeding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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wdym? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.21.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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But they are far better educated than you are, Think about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 07:57 AM Flag
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How would you know? OP said nothing about her education. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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There are no TT private high schools that cost 25K in NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 11:57 AM Flag
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They did until a few years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.22.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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