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06.20.08, 10:18 AM General Topics
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DH and I missed my sister's fiance's auf ruf for DH's best friend's 30th bday party. (who has auf ruf on Sat night?). Now sister is saying they may not make it to DS's bris. We have known for a while when DB is coming (scheduled) and we are not sure if it is a boy. Sister was supposed to be the godmother. Is this appropriate revenge for the auf ruf? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 10:18 AM Flag
 

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wow, I have no idea what you are talking abouut. what is auf ruf?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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wtf is an auf ruf?!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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was going to ask, but figured everyone else knew. lol! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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I have no idea either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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np - jewish ceremony before the wedding. Groom publicly declares his intent to marry the bride, and says she is the choice of his heart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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hm. that seems like kind of a big deal to miss for your sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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wow - jewish and never ehard of that. to me a bris is a much bigger deal then a f-king auf ruf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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right, but they missed it to go to a birthday party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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then they need to hash it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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^^ however, i am not saying that missing the bris is appropriate revenge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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in retrospect, DS's bris means more to me than DHs aufruf, but at the time, it was an important event. If op did not support her sister, i understand the sister not wanting to be there for her. Petty, but understandable, imo. Being a family means showing up for the events that matter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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well stated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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She is being petty and childish, but you should have gone to your future BILs aufruf, even if DH went to the party. Family comes before friends, imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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np - ask her if this is why she isn't coming to the bris. this is your child and her nephew. needs to grow up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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Seems a bit inappropriate for you to miss such a big thing in your sister's life for a bday party.... It's also inappropriate for her to retaliate in that way, but I think what you did was hurtful... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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Personally if you didn't support your sister I can understand her being upset. But if she is doing this as revenge without saying she was unhappy then I think it's pretty petty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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np - her loss if she misses the bris over spite [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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ita - she can't expect to be Godmother if she isn't even turning up. I would try sorting this out before it causes long term family arguments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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Did you apologize for missing the auf ruf? Did you know in advance that she really cared about it? Why on earth would you choose dh's bf over your own sister? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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