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06.20.08, 08:14 AM General Topics
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i feel sad , just told mil that i cannot take care of her ds, my dh anymore financially. gave him & her one month to find a room for him somewhere because i cant hack this anymore. db 1 years old and dh has been home more than i have :( [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.20.08, 08:14 AM Flag
 

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i don't understand--why are you not telling dh this? Is he unemployed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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he has been unemployed for along time now and he tries more to be at home than work, he has not even made a single phone call in weeks for work , i cant afford three people on my salary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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So you are kicking DH out? Why is this MIL's problem? I don't get it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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because he has no money and no work so kicking him out wud be putting him on the street. considering his mother is the only person that wud help him im telling her to help find him a room [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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How about telling DH to find a room himself? OP, it sounds like you are more than a small part of the problem here for infantalizing DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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i have and he takes it as a joke,calls me names .. what else can i do then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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If he does not want to leave it may not be so easy to get him out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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and its hard for me to muster up the courage cause i loe him but fiancially im doing very bad and it seems to not even bother him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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How much money will you save by kicking him out? And divorce is not free... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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alot see last post i wrote , uses up everything in home and is way inconsiderate. promises to look for work and squats all day, if i bitch im picking on him if i ignore he takes it as its cool for him to do it more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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Why aren't you telling your DH that? What does MIL have to do with it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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did your DH lose his job? what did he do? and how did your MIL react? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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he quit his last job , without even having a new one. it breaks my heart but i can barely afford the basics for me and my child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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are you kidding? what else is wrong? is your dh 16? Why tell his motehr? how strange that you would decide to split up the parents because you don't want to take care of him financially anymore. This has got to be a fake post. weirdo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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god is everything a fake post to people on here is it bizarre to live beyond a closed in box. enough of the fake post thing your killing good advice from people that need it on UB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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I don't understand this post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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If you get divorced and he's been primary caregiver for awhile, be careful because kids may go to him, and then you're going to have to pay child support, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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ive claimed head of house hold for the tax season , so hopefully that helps me out , but any recods would show him not having any jobs for awhile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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that's not going to matter at all for custody. Usually a man is head of the household and they rarely get custody because they are not primary caregiver. How old is dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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oppps, saw that dc was 1.... I would be REALLY careful, it wouldn't be as bad if db was in school... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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the only thing that will help you is if he really does actually leave than it is abandonment. If he talked to a lawyer, they would tell him under no circumstances should he move out unless there is an agreement already.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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only 1 yrs old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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who takes care of dc when you work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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babysitter, i have everything covered if its just me and her but not for all 3 while he pigs out all day, uses my electricity all day messes up my house and acts like he knows it all- its soo nauseating to me when i see him, but i still love him only cause he is my childs father :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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I wouldn't do anything further until you talk to a lawyer ASAP. If he's seeing db more than you, even if you have babysitter, than it is easy for him to claim primary caregiver. Even if he doesn't actually want this, he can use it against you to get a ton more in a divorce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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he's obviously seriously depressed... has he been in therepy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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he has no insurance , but when i was younger i would go to groups that were free idk if he would go, i see depression but i also see no will no to change , he is older than me , and i feel like his mom was the biggest enabler not making him work til he left which was 30!! so that why i wanna toss him back to her lap and be her problem that she created [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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before he moves out, can you secretly test for drugs? I think all they need is a hair. It almost sounds from a lot of what you're saying that he may be using while you're not around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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why doesn't he have insurance under you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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Wow. Your marital relationship sounds very odd. If you have insurance, why doesn't he? If you divorce, it is very likely that he will sue you for custody and child support and possibly family support as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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If the lease/mortgage is in your name, just have the locks changed while he is out. If not, stop paying the rent/mortgage. If it's joint, then you need to negotiate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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