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06.19.08, 19:48 PM New York City
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Anyone give up a private for G&T? How did you tell them? What was their reponse? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
New York City 06.19.08, 07:48 PM Flag
 

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They don't care, but you are on the hook for the full year of tuition [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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OP: yeah, I already figured that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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had dh call them. they threatened to pursue the matter if we did not pay the full year's tuition, so we did. df got the spot. pissed they double dipped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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how did he phrase it? care to say which school? Have to make this call tomorrow and dreading it. We love the school, but really will be much better off financially if we go public. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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said we loved the school (which we did), but that financially it made sense to take this option which we did not have when we signed the contract. they were not exactly bice about it. happily, dh made the call. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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^^nice, not bice... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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that sucks. I'm thinking of having dh make the call, too. I'd probably start crying if they sounded mad at me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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no offense, but if you read the contracts, you would know this. to expect them to forgive is a tad bit entitled [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 09:40 PM Flag
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never expected anything, but did hope for it. also they filled the spot. told df that we were releasing the spot, she called, and they took her dc. they did not need to charge us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 03:00 AM Flag
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is that legal? I can see you having to pay full tuition if the school would lose out, but why should the school get double tuition for the same seat? I know that's illegal in Georgia -- we used to live in Atlanta and had the same thing happen. We didn't pay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:01 AM Flag
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entitled is a school making someone pay for something they have not lost. It is spiteful and wrong. Imagine if you asked for insurance money for a lost bracelet that you then found behind the sofa. Would it be OK to keep the money? Nope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 07:51 AM Flag
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hello, you signed a contract that states what is owed when. you are talkign apples and oranges [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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Lawyer: from basic legal standpoint, if school recovers loss by enrolling another student in that place, they have no cause to hold you to pay for the spot because (in legal terms), they have already "mitigated" their damages. Now they could hold you to pay for whatever administrative expenses or lsot value they had, but not the whole amount. Just because you sign a contract, it isn't necessarily enforcable if it goes against public policy and basic contract principles.I'd seriously refuse to pay and let them come after you for the contract. J [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 07:48 AM Flag
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NP, but I spoke to lawyers when faced with the same situation, and they said that it falls under a type of law that doesn't involve mitigated damages. Regular contract law perhaps? I can't remember what it was called, but it was different than, say, when you break your lease and the landlord is required to try to find a replacement tenant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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that would be equity law (e.g. you need a service, like having a contract with a specific performer, that cannot easily be replaced); but I think a good case can be made that students are replacable commodities, so damages can be mitigated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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NP: non-lawyer here (with strong exposure to legal issues, so I get your point). IN the incestuous world of NYC schools, people are often feaful of doing this in case it comes back to haunt them (middle and high school admissions) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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Another lawyer mom here and I totally agree. They won't come after you if they fill the spot because they would not prevail. BTW, it was nice of you to tell your friend you were giving up the spot. Last year, my friend gave up a spot and did not tell me even though she knew we really wanted the school and by the time she finally did tell me she pulled out, the school had already filled the spot. It ruined our friendship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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Wait. When your friend pulled out she had the option to get a specific child in? Was there a guarantee that if you knew about this sooner your kid had a real chance at getting that spot. Also, school ruined your friendship? No way! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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Yes, we were told we had priority wait list and my df knew this. No guarantee we would have got the spot, but I sure as heck would have been calling the AD had I known there was about to be an opening. I think my frenemy as I now refer to either purposely did not tell me or had no consideration for me. I had done her many, many favors in the past so I decided to end the friendship [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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You are not a good friend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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I gave you a brief synopsis of the facts, so who are you to judge. I don't think one should continue to give to friends who don't bother to help you when they can. I am a good friend, I just refuse to be used by people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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(np) Dude, you broke up with a friend of yours over a school? A school? Seriously? This is a joke, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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wow! wonder if you are talking about me? you were so mean to my dc that I did not think you conseidered me a friend. had we actually been friends, I would have called you in a heartbeat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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I guess you have a guilty conscience, my frenemy does not ub. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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were you mean or at least not nice to her dc? If yes, we may know each other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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I would never be mean to a child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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A true friend would have called you - no question. I hope you are happy where you are anyway. This process gets the worst out of people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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Only if you let it. And if you do you have issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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thanks, very happy where we are this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.20.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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