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06.19.08, 18:54 PM General Topics
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I am 14 wks pregnant with twins, tried for 2 years dealt with infertility issues, failed IUI's and have reached a point where I am cautiously optimistic. Today, my 'friend' called to tell me that an acquaintance of hers went in to find out the sex of her baby only to learn the baby was dead and she had to deliver the baby two days later. She said she struggled with what to do, but really just thought I should know. What kind of friend is that? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.19.08, 06:54 PM Flag
 

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Huh? You want the world to hide bad news from you for the next 6 months? Do you have no compassion for your acquaintance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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I totally have compassion for this woman, I just don't know her. She is someone my friend knows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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so you would rather not know? Does that protect you somehow? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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Not at all. I don't need protecting. I think I just need a different friend. This is the same person who would rush to tell me as soon as she knew ANYONE (even people I didn't know) was pregnant during two years of infertility and disappointment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Wow, this is a horrible tragedy and it is not about you. You are going to have a rocky pregnancy if you feel you need to be shielded from unpleasantness - most people won't agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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not sure I understand the problem... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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I know, it's really hard to hear all those stories, and I wish that people would be more sensitive. Unfortunatly, they don't know how much worry goes into it. My dad used to go on and on about the neighbor's adorable 9 month old right after I has a miscarriage and it drove me wild. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Maybe I dont get it but the expectation here is that no one should say anything sad or negative if you are pregnant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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or: no, but obviously hearing stories about random people's horrible pregnancy losses is going to be upsetting to a pregnant person. Why did op need to hear this horrible story? This is especially true for people that have had a difficult time either getting pregnant or staying pregnant because they are already far more prone to worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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Its upsetting to everyone because it IS upsetting! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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obviously it is not kicking you in the gut if you have enough energy to rip on a women that has had a hard time.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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^^^ just keep repeating to yourself that at 14 weeks, you really are in the clear. The likelyhood of something happening is very very low. In a couple months you are going to have two beautiful children and this is just going to be a distant memorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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and then OP can listen to things about someone besides herself? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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grow up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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A very very very stupid and insensitive one. BTW- congrats on the twins, mine just turned 3. So much fun. BTW- Pregnancy Tip - Drink lots and lots of water, 100+ ounces a day in this heat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Thank you. I appreciate the advice and am trying to stay hydrated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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you should say a prayer for this poor woman and her dead baby and stop focusing on yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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ita, its chilling how self-absorbed some people can be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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I would think more than anyone OP would have some sensitivity to a devastating loss like that - not anger because it momentarily rocked her calm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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but it's too close to home, that's the point... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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OP, i can completely understand why you're upset, and can't figure out why all of these other posters are giving you a hard time. why did you need to know? has nothing to do with you. congratulations to you, and best of luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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