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06.19.08, 18:28 PM General Topics
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wtf? bil invited me and dh to wedding, also invited dh's kids to wedding (from first marriage) but didn't invite our dc? what's up with that?! [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.19.08, 06:28 PM Flag
 

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your kid is too young [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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op: is a 4 year old so much more welcome than a 2 year old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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if that's the case, I think your husband should ask his brother what's up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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2 is impossible, 4 is debatable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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what? that's nuts. we're not talking about being IN a wedding, we're talking about being AT a wedding. parents should be able to make that call on their own, and after all this is family she's talking about. definitely rude, definitely weird, and at the very least, if they had some sort of age cutoff, he should have told you guys beforehand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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No my dear - parents don't get to make the call on children at a wedding. That is the sole discretion of the bride and groom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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My dear ... I'm talking about parents of INVITED children deciding whether their child would be impossible at said wedding, or manageable. Read the posts, in order, and get off your high horse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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"...didn't invite our dc..." Did I make that up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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oh geez, you're really lost. you responded to MY post (not op's), where I said parents should be able to make that call on their own, which in turn was a response to another poster who said 2 is impossible, 4 is debatable. guess you just need a little posting tutorial or something. anyway, moving on ... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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unless you use the OP, NP, NNP headers, we don't know who you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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Why do some people not understand this? You dont get to bring children if you feel like it. That is what invitations are for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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As I said, "I'm talking about parents of INVITED children deciding whether their child would be impossible at said wedding, or manageable. Read the posts, in order, and get off your high horse." Guess no one can read! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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your syntax is horrible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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And the children in question ARE NOT INVITED. Are you suggesting that the bride/groom were obligated to invite the children so that they parents could make the call as to whether they attend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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You can't read posts in order. That's not the way the board is set up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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op: well the bride is WEIRD. you wouldn't even believe how weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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It is not up to the parents. It is up to the host/hostess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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np: I invited only one of my nieces (who was 4) leaving 3 younger nieces/nephews off the guest list. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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totally disagree, that is rude. how old is your child? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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op: 2. this is the brother of the groom! if he's inviting children, i would think he is inviting ALL children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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np: I disagree. There is nothing wrong with including only those children the bride/groom feel especially close with or having an age cut-off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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I'm amazed so many don't see anything strange about this. I think you're right to feel weird about it, and I think your husband should (tactfully, if possible) look into it, just to clear the air. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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I would love to know how DH met wife #2...I suspect there is a bit more to the story here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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ditto, but it's still rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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I think you're right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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op: yea, the deep dark story is that wife #1 died and wife #2 met dh at a church event. really sordid... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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...oh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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And does your BIL have a closer relationship with your step children than he does with your biological children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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op: not at all. he has a closer relationship to our kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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Then he probably excluded them based on their age. They are too young for a wedding anyway, IMO. If he is so close to your dc, you shouldn't have a hard time asking him his thought process. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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i agree, rude. i'm actually not a fan of kids at an evening wedding, but it HAS to be an all or nothing situation - all kids or none. what did you dh say? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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op: nothing yet. he's not home. it's a morning wedding by the way. and we all live together [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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np: That's just silly. You don't want to exclude your own children or nieces/nephews simply because you don't want to include friend's children or distant relatives. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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I included nieces/nephews but not other children. I think it is perfectly acceptable, I wanted them around for photos and I'm very close to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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It is odd that they would invite one and not the other... I know there's an age difference, but still a 4y-o is hardly likely to sit still. I would have dh ask his brother, just be ok if this is how they want it b/c it is their call [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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op: we will. but if that's what they want, i doubt dh will want to go and i certainly won't want to go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.19.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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